Me an my boyfrind have been together for almost 7 months. Im 18 and he just turned 27. I knw he's way older than me but that doesnt matter. Everything was cool at the beginning becausewe would always go out but as time passed by now we just kick it at his place and i feel he just wants me for sex. When were together he is really sweet and when we dont see each other we talk on the phone almost everyday... i need advice waht do all of u think????
2007-09-21 18:26:53 · 13 answers · asked by MISH 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know a lot of his cousins, and he took me to meet his mom at the beginning of the relationship.
2007-09-21 18:35:27 · update #1
i have told him many times and he tells me sorry that he knows how i feel, and i even gave him an oportunity to break up with me cause i told him if he didnt have time then to just end it but he toold me that he really liked me and that he felt confortable with me, that i was a cool person. and that we were gonna try things out but this was at the beggining and now hes messing up again.
2007-09-21 18:42:32 · update #2
and then he tells me sorry i just get caught up on things. And hes always with his guy cousins.
2007-09-21 18:46:31 · update #3
One thing to consider (I just thought it myself) is that maybe your boyfriend was just acting all tough around you, and maybe he really does love you. This is a better plan. Talk to your boyfriend. Don't attack or accuse, just say that you need him to know a couple of things. Tell him that it hurts you to think he is just using you. Or say whatever way feels right for you. I think what is the most important is that you don't play the martyr here.
Talk about it, do what feels right, tell him how you feel; then at least you have put your cards on the table. You see, you've only been together for barely 7 months and he has gotten already the pleasure of having you know what I mean from a teenage girl your age? It's not very becoming. Be careful with the honeyed words of men.
Good luck. I always like to see the good girl win!!!!
ravishingV
2007-09-21 19:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him a few times you go over and he doesn't take you out.
What's his excuse for not taking you out?
Have you suggested it to him on many occasions? If not, I think now is the time.
Sometimes people get "comfortable" in a relationship....sometimes too comfortable and start taking the other person for granted.
So, the next time he wants to see you and you find out before hand, decline say no thanks, I don't feel like sitting around in the house, maybe tomorrow night.
He is a bit older than you, he is of legal drinking age so where he takes you is limited as far as going out for a drink late at night, like to a club.
There is always the movies, dinner etc. but did he always pay? Sometimes that gets expensive, but what this boils down to is you two have gotten into a "RUT".
If you can't say no to sex, don't go to his place for awhile and see how he handles that, you will get your answer, just be open for what may come.
2007-09-21 18:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i heard about an 18 yr old going out with like a 20 something year old...they had sex, and people found out and the guy got put in jail for child molestation...even though they were going out! cause she was underage...since you still talk on the phone you SHOULD be ok, but like, meet in person some more...you need to
2007-09-21 18:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really hard situation, if you think hes just using you for sex, then he's not worth your time. If he really cares about you then he would do other things with you besides having sex all the time.
2007-09-21 18:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being cheap. And maybe he could be a little embarrassed because you so young. He can't exactly take you out to the bar with his buddies or anything. Tell him you want to go out and do things again, and see what he says.
2007-09-21 18:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by smASHley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that matters is how u feel about it. If u feel like hes using u than ur probably right, just go with ur instinct and tell him how u feel. If hes a good guy he'll shape up
2007-09-21 18:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally if a guy is having sex before he is married that's all he is in any relationship for, sounds like you fell into the trap to me.
2007-09-21 18:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is comfortable with how things are. tell him you want to go out and do things with him. since he is so much older he has already had his party time in which you are just starting, so he needs to relize that you still have this stage to go through. hopefully he will understand and be willing to go with you.
2007-09-21 18:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by danee1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel like he's just after sex stop having sex with him and see what happens.
2007-09-21 18:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got bad news for you so brace yourself:
You are a booty call and you can count on him cheating on you in the near future if he hasn't already.
2007-09-21 18:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by dejavu7013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋