mother is re-married, grandmother spoils the 15-year old. 15-year old doesn't want to go back to mother and step father and siblings because he doesn't like to do chores, doesn't want to be disciplined. troubled child, was suspended in middle school. now in high school.
2007-09-21 17:45:47 · 16 answers · asked by Q&A Monster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
was suspended for stealing in school. his own father has not recognized him legally. only wants to see the child when it's convenient for him and so that he can boast to other people that he's a macho guy who had a son from a woman he's not married to. father is also a known drug-user and has never tried to send child support in the entire 15+ years.
mother and step father are not newly married.
2007-09-21 17:59:13 · update #1
grandmother is not home 4 days a week. she stays over at her work and is only home 3 days a week.
15-year old is home alone for the most part or stays home with 20-year old cousin who dropped out of high school and is an all-around bad influence.
2007-09-21 18:01:21 · update #2
grandmother is proven not to know how to care for children. lived for most of her life with nannies who raised her children. the only way she knows how to take care of her children or grandchildren is to buy them everything they ask for.
2007-09-21 18:03:09 · update #3
If the mother has sole custody of the 15 yr. old and wants the child returned then the grandmother must return the child or face kidnapping charges if the mother files them.
Depending on state law,at about 16,he can file to become independent of his mother and choose to have another adult become his guardian until the age of 18 when he becomes an adult.
The alternative is for the mother to allow the 15 yr. old to live with grandma.
She will need to sign papers giving the grandmother custody of the boy.
The boy needs a good spanking.
2007-09-21 18:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't say I blame the 15 year old... he has found the ideal co-dependent enabler. Here he has someone to feed him, clean up after him, defend him, and he doesn't have to share his space with any step-kids.
The problem with that is the grandmother will eventually need help in dealing with the little hoodlum. She won't be healthy enough to deal with him forever. She may not be able to give him a car or cover the insurance for him, either.
If the grandmother does not have a legal reason to hang onto him, you can get the family courts involved. The only problem with that is that he is 15 and is legally able to choose who he lives with (as in any other custody case).
So what can you do to entice him to come back of his own free will? ATVs? Camping trips? Skate park memberships? Cool sneakers? Video games? Matching funds towards a car?
What grabs this kid?
2007-09-21 18:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the US…
A minor cannot choose to live with someone other than a parent. A 15-year-old would be able to voice their preference in court regarding which PARENT to live with in a custody case, but only a parent. The only way Grandma would get custody against your wishes is if she can prove you to be an unfit parent, and it takes A LOT to do that.
Call Grandma and tell her she has X number of hours to bring him home and if she doesn’t do so, then you’re calling the police and filing charges for harboring a runaway, custodial inference, contributing to the delinquency of a minor, and anything else that might possibly apply.
Of course, then your problem is…what are you going to do once he’s back home? Because you can expect that he will be very angry.
2007-09-21 20:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the 15-year old boy is going through a normal period of growth. He wants to feel independent and thinks that grandma will let him be independent.
At this stage, the last thing on his mind is doing chores and feels that he is too old to be told what to do yet he still needs guidance.
Although grandma may not have had to do chores and was raised by nannies she is older now and hopefully wise enough to know what she wants from this grandchild and what she does not.
If her kids were trouble then she probably will not appreciate her grandsons troubles for very long.
I would just act like it is okay with you, accept his decision, and wait for his disappointment. He will miss his friends and family soon enough. My sons always said they were going to leave me but they love me so much they could not have done it. Teenage years.
2007-09-21 18:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by Twilight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother should talk it out with the grandmother and if the grandmother refuses to give him back. get her arrested. Only if the mother is the legal gaurdian. By law ,child belongs to legal gaurdian until he turns 18 or if the court says otherwise. Hope this info was useful.
2007-09-21 18:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 15:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dial 911
2007-09-21 17:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother should call the police and report him as a runaway. Grandma gets in trouble for harboring a runaway. Teen gets brought back home by the police.
2007-09-21 17:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by AnnaBanana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you took this to court, I believe at 15 he is old enough to choose who he wants to live with. Providing the grandmothers house isn't a bad situation...
2007-09-21 17:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by abby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Suspended doesn't make a "troubled" child.
I have been suspended once in 6,7, and 9 grade, and I am most certianly not troubled, or a trouble maker.
The kid is spoiled, and needs a few days in juvie, or perhaps even a taste of foster care.
2007-09-21 17:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋