Okay, I've had a boyfriend for sixth months now. He's a highschool junior, I'm a college freshman, we still live ten minutes away from each other. I love him... very, very much, but I'm worried that I'm not *in* love with him. It seems like I should be-- we have the same sense of humor, same taste in movies and music, both quiet, etc, etc. I don't have that "head over heels" feeling, but... he is undoubtedly my best friend. I have literally no other friends in town, so I'd be all alone. The thing that has me most worried though, is if I were to break up with him, it would really just tear him apart. He's a really delicate guy... I feel like I could never forgive myself for breaking his heart. It also feels like I'd have wasted sixth months of my time, because I did all these cute things for him, and I really *want* him to be the one. I know I'd miss him. Plus, I always feel positively giddy when I'm with him.
Help, please? Input?
2007-09-21 17:29:19 · 8 answers · asked by avacado pie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're only a year apart in age.
2007-09-21 17:40:46 · update #1
Why are you pressuring yourself about it. If you like him stop worrying about love and all the other stuff you mentioned. It's possible that you do love him but you're not "in love" with him. If it were a case of being "in love" you wouldn't question it, you would know without a doubt.
I think you love him as a friend, that you're trying to force yourself to be in love with him so that you won't be alone. You've attached yourself to all the things you like about him and you're using it to say it's love when it's not. Stop using this guy for your own selfishness. Find others to befriend and hang out with. You wouldn't want to be treated like this so don't do it to someone else. He deserves better and you deserve someone you truly desire to have a lasting loving relationship with.
Being a freshman is stressful and not knowing that many people makes it even harder. You're reaching out to and holding on to the only thing that's keeping you grounded and sane. Once you start making friends and hanging out with others at your school, or meet a guy that interested in you, you'll end up forgetting about him and probably dumping him.
2007-09-21 17:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by boj 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you have any doubts at all about him and how he would treat you? financially or otherwise? if so then don't let his tenderness dictate where you are in life... it would be better to break up now, than to invest any more time in it cause he will really make a big deal out of all the things you went through and all over the years if you don't, and try to break up years from now.
2007-09-22 00:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't feel head over heels with someone not as mature as yourself. Try catch and release, let him be a high school kid again. You should have no problem finding guys at College. That's what your asking isn't it, let him go.
2007-09-22 00:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been in the same lull, its usually caused by a lack of hormonal exchanges. Take some time to think about it but don't do anything rash.
2007-09-22 00:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay with him, until you find someone who really
makes your heart pound....beat...beat... thump thump....
Or have 3 or 4 boyfriends at your age its ok! Have fun chic!
Open your horizons..your only a freshmen once!
2007-09-22 02:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by relaxrx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, it's like you and I are living the same life. D: Only mine is more extreme.
I can't wait to see what people say...
sorry, I can't help.
what happened in my situation is that I got dumped anyway. :/ I guess you're a more considerate person.
2007-09-22 00:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by steve paisley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you're doing him and yourself a dis-service. stop hiding behind your boyfriend and make some new friends, and let him do the same.
also, just because you two aren't the forever kind, doesn't mean it was a waste of time....you learned something didn't you?
2007-09-22 00:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of him. You're old enough to be his babysitter. Find yourself a college man.
He also needs to be with girls his own age, and it could be argued that he's barely old enough to be with girls at all. You, OTOH, are a woman of the world. Move on, unless this is one of the rarest and rarest of exceptions. Surely you must be feeling you should, or else why would you be asking?
2007-09-22 00:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋