Im an 18 year old male, and I used to masturbate quite frequently (usually 2 times a day). I recently just became sexually active and I cannot ejaculate while having sex with my girlfriend. It is extremely fustrating and i believe it has to do with my past frequent masturbation. Does anyone know how to correct this problem, so i can have adequate sex?
2007-09-21 17:28:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maxwell has it peg right in the head. Let me elaborate. There are two things going on here. #1 is the nervousnes. Being with a person so close can be intimidating. You get nervous because is you are not used to it and you have some issues in your head. By issues I don't mean anything bad. I mean things like wanting to perform well, proper technicque. Worried about many things because you are thinking about how you are going to be judge. You also have the fear of the condom breaking and what not. Fear not, this is normal. As time passes you will feel more comfotable with her and the nervousness will decrease. I've been with my wife for about 7 years and I still get nervous at time.
#2 The side effect of masturbation is that it decreases sensitivity. This is because no matter how many keggel reps your girlfriend does her vagina will never compare to the grip of your hand. Men tend to be very rigorous with things so you pretty much beat your thing a bit too much and is not as sensitive as it should be. Do not worry, sensitivity will come back over time. Just don't mistreat the poor thing. Also, you say you masturbated twice a day. Well, so much ejaculation makes it harder to ejaculate again. Your body needs time to recover. It needs time to reproduce more hormones, sperm and what not so again, you are less sensitive. Another thing. When you masturbate you know how to turn yourself on and how to hit the right spots. Its harder with another person because the feeling is different. Again, over time you will retrain yourself.
Like the others said, the cure is to take it easy. Maybe wait 3 days before having any type of sex. Yes even masturbation. Better yet a week. Seven days may not seem like much but wait until you get to day 5.
Another thing is why worry so much about it. Hey is better to last long than be a 1 minute man. Make lemonade out of lemons.
2007-09-21 17:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not the only person out there when they were 18 who masturbated twice a day nor will be the last! This means that you have a very high sex drive and you should try things that you have never tried before that will get for juices following. Are you creative? Is your girlfriend open minded? If so then ask her what her fantasy is, share with her yours, try role-playing, try to have sex in place's you would never have them, how about excitement, trying to get caught??? If none of this helps then maybe you need a different lover who is wild and crazy and who is like a dog and can treat you new TRICKS.
2007-09-21 17:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by kellyleemac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a big deal, just masturbate less. All those ummm "sessions" make you less sensitive. but you get it back after a few days. Also you can try using thinner condoms. And put some lube, or perhaps have your girl give you some oral before the intercourse. This is of course assumes that you are using condoms lol.
2007-09-21 17:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After she comes, do whatever it takes to... well you know. Bang her as hard as you can. Wearing a condom (which I hope you're doing) takes away A LOT of feeling, so it wouldn't be surprising if you can't... you know. If you aren't using a condom and you still can't even when you're going crazy... I don't know what to tell you.
2007-09-21 17:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not worry, my ex had the same problem , I think when u mastrubate u put too much pressure vs when with gf... so, ur body do not respond to this yet... stop mastrubating for awhile and do more foreplay, do not think about it too much... explain gf if she freaks out, -- her understanding is important for u to relax, ---- it would go away...
feel her body, do not think about ur problem... and do not mastrubate to porn ,--- very draining and could cause this problem too...
there is nothing better than real gf...
2007-09-21 17:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Willing to learn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well have u told her yet? but anyways u just need to relax, to shag it'll work. masturbation is very healthy and normal so it cant be that. maybe thats God's way of telling u that ur not ready yet:)
2007-09-21 17:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
idnt no but your probable just nervous since u just recently became sexually active, make take a while to just relax.. =)
2007-09-21 17:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think either your trying to hard or your nervous and dont realize it. you are probably concentrating too much on it and it just doesnt happen for you. once you get really comfortable, then you'll start to go regularly.
2007-09-21 17:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by BBONKERS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST stop masterbating all together for at least a few months or at least limit it.
2007-09-21 17:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by lady P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are nervous. Don't masterbate then it will build up and you should be able to go during intercourse.
2007-09-21 17:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋