I have a 3 year old son. He is really loud when he plays and he goes to sleep late,?

Question

I live in an apartment, which by the way have really thin walls you can hear the neighbors next door talking. Well my neighbor came knocked on my door asking if my son was ok, because he was screaming and running. Tonight it was like 9 30 pm and my son was outside laughing and another neighbor came out and said for him to be quiet because her son was sleeping. My son cannot go outside because he bothers someone all the time. I am really stressed out over this and I want to move out already, I just moved in is there anything I can do without getting charged for breaking my lease. I really think that its the apts. because they are really really old and they have no insulation what so ever. Everyone who has kids should understand that kids can be loud. Help.

Answer 1

I understand what you are saying as well as the other answers. I have a 4 year old son and I know how loud they can be...I don't know what people expect you to do when your kid is loud and you can't stop him. My son gets cranky when he is tired and gets really loud and cries constantly until he goes to bed. He cries when he has to go to sleep and says he is not tired even though I can tell that he is exahusted...

What do people expect you to do? Beat your child until they stop? Yell back at them and teach them more bad habbits that will lead to more problems? In my opinion the more you try to quiet them the louder they get and want to be.

When my son starts to get cranky, wild, or loud, I make a game out of puting him to bed...That way he does not drive me or anyone else nuts with his loudness...I just go put my child to bed and read him a story which distractes him for a while and then I make sure that I make bed time exciting for him by getting him a special night light that I let him turn on (sponge bob his favorite) and then give him a stuffed dog that "watches over him" in his sleep and make sure that he preys that God will watch over him and protect him, that he will fall right to sleep and not be scared etc. After a big production he goes to sleep.

I understand that not everyone is as prepared when having kids as the first person who answered. Some people have things,(divorce, loss of job, and many other circumstances) that happen in their lives which cause them to have to move from a good place into places that are not the best situitions.

I don't know what your situition is but if it is a possiblity you may want to find a place where you can give your child a better area to play and run out all that wild boy energy. Maybe try and take a nice long walk with him in the evening and let him run around. Make a game out of it and get him nice and tired out then bring him home, give him his bath and do a big bedtime production, I think if you put him to bed tired and earlier you may notice a difference in the way he acts. He will be way to tired to stay up late or be loud in the evening. I let my kids stay up late on the weekends but on week nights they are in bed by 8:30 every night. Hope this helps, I kinda like to ramble but my kids are fast asleep right now and I have time to...LOL...Good Luck!

Answer 2

As a Mom of 2 toddlers that are both more intense and energetic than most other kids, I can sympathize with what you are going through. Bed time can be a real struggle here and there have been many nights that they are up playing until midnight no matter how hard we try to get them to go to bed, it is very frustrating.

You say you just moved in... Any time of transition can be difficult for a young child and it may take some time for him, especially a 3 year old, to adjust. Maybe you could kindly explain to your neighbors that you are working with him on lowering his volume and that you do understand their frustrations but would appreciate their patience during the process. If they know that you are aware of the situation and that you are trying to do something about it they might be a little less hard on him. You are correct that anyone with kids should understand that kids can be loud.

When you live in an apartment with very little sound-proofing, you have to deal with being able to hear your neighbors. That means car doors slamming, people talking loudly, dogs barking, kids playing, etc. I lived in an apartment before having kids, so I know. In fact, the couple above us did have a toddler that use to stomp across the floor all hours of the night and my husband and I never once complained because we knew she was just a little girl. We used to joke with each other that it sounded like they had an elephant up there. Now that we have our own little herd of elephants, we completely understand!

I hope your neighbor lightens up. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Hi I have a 2 year old and he too can play very loudly. I had problems with him sleeping through the night at the age of 1 so i became strict with his sleep routines he had lunch at 11.30 and bed at 12 then dinner was at 5 and bed at 7 this worked so well for me and i noticed that he was alot more calmer too. he enjoyed his play time and was happy to go to bed. ive also been to see proffessionals and they have told me that children should be having 12 hours sleep untill they start school and that its also better for them ie. eating sleeping and behaviour is much better. hope i could help.

Answer 4

Kids are very loud ...instead of breaking the rental lease..just wait until your time is up and then start looking for a new place..
also you should maybe start setting a certain time that he has to go to bed.
my son is 13 months and he is extremly active...but around 6pm i give him a bath ..which relaxes him ..and i make him sit with me ..and i read to him ..or sometime i put on cartoon movies..which makes him sit still to watch them (only around that time..if its any earlier in his crazy moods then he watches 1 sec of it and then goes off ) ..i also use this time to spend quality time with him ..i play with him whenever i can ..but i really put all my attention on him at this time..and then after a while i put him in bed..and 7:30/8:00pm he is sleeping.

you've got to find a way that you child settles down before its time to go to bed...you cant just expect him to be all active and then completly relaxed straight away..
so you have to slow time down for them.

well goodluck with everything.

Answer 5

A 3years old should be in his by 8Pm I raised 5boys I know what I am talking about If all the neighbours complain they are not all wrong ITs your to love care and DICIPLINE your child And yres move out and wisely the advice of the woman who wrote the first letter I mean follow her advice

Answer 6

well ok basically I feel kids need houses with yards, and as such I didnt have a kid til I had a house with a yard.

Kids need space, they need grass, and they need security - living under a landlord offers NO longterm security.
I saved up enough to buy a house while working for MINIMUM WAGE - I had no cable, no interet, ate lots of soup etc. but I saved like mad.. and now have sold that house and moved to an even larger house on an acreage. It CAN be done!!!!
YOU have to make it a priority - live as cheap as you can for as long as you have to.. save $$ like mad.

Look for cheaper rentals like in houses or such...

If you are going to live in rental property you must teach your son to be quieter... its a simple fact of life...