There are rumors going around saying that my boyfriend is cheating on me. I'm afraid to bring it up in front of him because I don't want to believe it is true. What should I do?
2007-09-21 16:47:50 · 17 answers · asked by Angie C. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remember he is innocent, until proven guilty.
Consider where the rumours have come from. Are they from a credible source ie. best friend, or is it just something someone's made up to cause trouble.
If you think there may be truth to the rumour you should bring it up. It would be better to do that than to be worrying about it all the time.
Also if it were me, I'd rather find out now, than later.
2007-09-21 16:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on whether you really do trust him or not. Only you can answer that. Rumors can fly around & are not concrete whatsoever. IF you have a STRONG feeling what you're hearing is true, all you can do is ask. You can just say what you heard, & ask why would anyone want to say that about him. See what his reaction is to that. IF by chance he was, wouldn't you really want to know?! You can hide your head & not believe them, OR you can get to the bottom of it once & for all & let the truth be known. Honestly, I don't think you'd really want to be w/someone you can't trust & someone who is NOT going to be true to you. If so, better you find out now, than later down the line when you've gotten more serious w/him & have it hurt even more. I sure wuld. want to know the truth for MY sake. I wouldn't want to waste my time & loyalty to someone who does not respect me or our relationship. Yes, it wuld. hurt, but like I said, better you find out now than later. Don't ask him in an accusing way, try to say it like I mentioned it above. I'm sure you know him well enuf to see in his eyes if he's telling you the truth or not. At least you be fair to yourself, get up the courage, because you deserve to know, & go from there. I KNOW I couldn't hold it in..But then that's me. Good luck to you, but you DO deserve to know/be told the truth...
2007-09-22 00:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to ask him. One day when you're hanging out alone just very calmly tell him about the rumors and ask if they are true. Listen to what he has to say, and it will have to be your judgment call as to whether or not he's lying. Try not to accuse him because he will just freak out.
The thing about not wanting to face the truth is that no matter what, it's still gonna happen. If you know about it and break it off with him, things will be a lot better for you than for him to be being such a jerk to you.
Good luck.
2007-09-21 23:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by CC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rumors are unsubstantiated information. You don't know whether it's true or not.
If you truly trust him, then show him that. If you even think there's an ounce of truth to the rumors, then let him know what you're hearing and ask him about it.
2007-09-21 23:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if you had a good trusting relationship you'd be able to bring it up - in passing, or like as a joke at least to gauge his reaction, but the fact that you're afraid to bring it up shows that you have your doubts about him.
Look at the source of these rumours, are they from someone who dislikes you or him, or someone who might genuinely know?
Trust your instinct and talk to him about it, or decide if you're willing to be in a relationship with someone who's not faithful
2007-09-21 23:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bad thing about rumors is...they are usually true. This is especially true about the workplace. I know rumors in high school and junior high are usually lies, but when you get in your late teens and early 20's, they are probably true.....
2007-09-21 23:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mysteri O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to face the truth. It's time to sit him down and talk to him. Tell them the things that you have heard and give him a chance to explain himself. He may be truthful if anything has happened, or he may lie, but rest assured, the truth always reveals itself.
You need to confront him. Then decide what to do from there.
2007-09-21 23:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as you don't want to believe it you must ask him about it if your sources are credible. just do it in the right way, tell him about the rumors circulating instead of just accusing him right away. your answer will be in his reaction and his body language. good luck
2007-09-21 23:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by dead eye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunt him down?? Im kinda in that same situation, except Im the other woman. And I feel so bad about it. Seriously watch his every move get some evidence and bring it up. If you have facts he won't think your psycho...
2007-09-21 23:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by confuseddisneygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, u should puck up courage and just ask wherethe is it ture or not it is better than keeping it in the dark...by the time u know it , it would be even more heartbroken..
2007-09-21 23:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by HSM2 always ture love u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋