ok,im really concerned about my mom & dad.they've been divoreced a while now.but my dad has been giving us food.food we dont really eat.its nice he's doing this,but its bothering my mom.this has happened a while now.she doesnt like to waste food,so she told my dad not to give anymore.if he does,she'll have to give him a restraning order.
i understand that she hates him,because of what my dad did to her long ago.but idk what to do.my dad sort of has a temper,so im scared he might try to yell at her.=/
what should i do?
im trying really hard to stay out of it...but i just cant.
2007-09-21 15:38:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your mom and tell her that it's begining to effect you because you feel the way she is treating him is not fair. Tell her you understand what he did was unfair, but remind her that a really mature adult would forgive one. Tell her to be more easy on him, so both of your lives can be easier and even including your fathers.
2007-09-21 15:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm - i don't believe food is the real issue here - it's just an example of the problem.
However, as to the food - contact the local food banks. If your dad gives you food - especially the kind that doesn't spoil - cans of soup, etc - then you can thank him and proceed to give them to the local food banks for others. No need to tell dad what really is going on with the food and everyone feels good.
But - again - I don't think that food is the real issue. I think your dad is trying to assert his way into the family. Perhaps you can speak to a school counselor, priest or social worker and try to uncover the main issue under it all.
2007-09-21 22:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see your dad dropping off food, tell him what could happen. He probably does not want a restraning order. If her starts to get mad, apologize, and tell him all you wanted to do was make him aware. Good luck.
2007-09-22 01:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom how you feel. After that try to stay separate from their problems. I know its really hard but they are the adults. They need to handle it not you. I don't see the problem with him giving you guys food. If its not something you guys eat give it to a food pantry. Hungry people aren't picky and they need it. That way its not wasteful
2007-09-21 23:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all im soo srry, and dont wrry all of us have out family problems but somtimes some worse than others... okay u NEED to sit down wit ur mom aside and ur dad aside even tho u may feel u cant u most if u want ur parents to be in the same room together. talk to ur mom and dad sepratly about how u feel and wat this is making u feel, like its affecting u personaly... i hope everything goes well for u and ur not alone, okayy so dont wrry about it.. everything happens for a reason remember that okay.. good luck!
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2007-09-21 22:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your dad and tell him you love him but the food has got to stop and it would make every one happy if it did and that if he want to do something to ask your mom what he can do that wont bother her , sounds like he just still wants to be a part of the family in some way
2007-09-21 23:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very unfortunate for you to have to live in a broken home, Im so sorry to hear about this situation, what I dont like is the idea that you are worrying about your parents, you have your own life to live and you are caught in the middle, just like millions of kids of our youth, and whos at fault here? not you, its your parents! I know that during divorce that the ones who are effected the most are the children so you are at high risk for depression and lots of other problems, so heres my advise to you- I want you to seek some help, maybe try to go to your school counseler who can refer you to family counseling, you need someone to talk to who understands these issues someone who can lead you in the right direction, this is alot of stress for you so please go seek some help, and remember this is not your fault,ok?
2007-09-21 23:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start praying. Call 1-800-759-0700
2007-09-21 23:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by JesusIsTheAnswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the donated food to shelter for homeless that way no trouble with you dad.
2007-09-21 22:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask your dad to not buy the food and get the money for something else.
2007-09-21 23:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by noob hustler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋