what is the treatment for extreme low self esteem? where people have made you feel bad about who you are all?

Question

your life?
iam 30 now, with bpd, aging prematurley. iam a perfectionist in my mind, but im physically not perfect, i have imperfections.
and this bothers me because i'm an extremely vain person.

Answer 1

umm well i would say dont focuse on the parts you dont like think about what you do like and if you can just work on the parts of yourslef you dont like but dont let it bother you becuase people probaly arnt even paying attention to your imperfections i rember i had a problem like that once but after a while i just got tired of making myself feel bad and when i gave up on that i noticed that people didnt notice them either

Answer 2

At least you admit you are vain, if you are not happy about your appearance, than you must make sacrifices to change those, but do you want to know a secret?
You will never be able to change the outside until you want to change for the right reasons and not because you want to impress others or make them like you, try as much as you want but I would bet my life on it you will not succeed for long, the first thing that would help you is to stop caring what others think, once you can do that, then it's up to you to make the rest happen, get a good support system of people who are humble, interesting, and that will teach you that appearances are the least important thing in this world, that may raise your self-esteem, I would suggest also looking at Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs which will tell you the steps an individual has to accomplish to live a life with purpose and meaning.

http://www.reference.com/browse/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs

Answer 3

TBH, i think of you're shifting interior the incorrect social circles and are "accomplishing out" to a pair incredibly broken and defective people. i'm specific there is actual no longer something incorrect with the type you seem, or behave, or something. it is merely that on a similar time as being a "white knight" to abused and trodden-on women would make you a stable person, it is not any longer precisely an helpful relationship attitude. She can not depart Begbie* for you basically because of the fact you refrain from shoving a broken bottle in her face as quickly as a fortnight. (there is this variety of ingredient as women believing which you're *too stable* for them, and out of their league. it is not any longer basically adult men that have this concept approximately women.) Be a chum to the ladies you pick to be friends with, and locate some wholesome and self-respecting women to go out with. there may well be none of those women on your social circles, wherein case locate some new social circles. It additionally facilitates to no longer use the "effective guy" word while talking approximately your self. That term has somewhat some luggage (somewhat on the internet relationship web content) and has come to incredibly much have the different meaning of what replaced into initially meant by employing it. *Trainspotting reference, in case you probably did no longer get it

Answer 4

There is no magic bullet or pill that will help you. You are the only one that can do it. The first thing is get out of the apartment, walk around and see people. Life is for living and sitting at the keyboard does not do it. The mind is the strongest part of the body and if you let it see life go by it will die on you. So live!!!

Answer 5

The treatment for problems loving yourself is to know that The Lord, whether you were the only person born of Adam and Eve or the only person on the earth, would pay for your sins by coming down in human flesh to be a substitute for your deserved punishment by dieing on a cursed tree. He lowered himself a little lower than the angels so that he could take this human form, and knows' our weakness of character and rejection of any but our way of doing things, which is wrong at best. He wishes to make you a complete person whom He designed for a purpose on this earth. He wants' you to answer Him when He calls' you individually to be His adopted child, so that the knigdom of God can be realized in your soul by Him living His life through you in a way that He can only do, by coming in by His Holy Spirit. We all feel as you do, but He loves' you throughout your life otherwise you wouldn't be here at all.
Be a person who matters to those around you, once you give your life over to your Savior, and you will be drawn into being a serving, loving personality. Then you will look lovely to whomever is helped and that you share yourself with to be a friend in the Lord. He says stay away from the crazy makers that look on the outside. He looks' on the inside. And says you have worth to the One who made you.
I have had critical treatment but I feel better and better as I reach out and take down the barriers that the Accuser (Satan)puts in the way to separate us as human beings. We all can contribute and do something, and what thing is done for The Lord, in His strength, lasts' and does true good-the thingsthat are worthy and give glory to Him. Your life is to do that.

Answer 6

Listen for the rapid automatic thoughts just below the surface of your thinking that put you down and change them to more logical thoughts. Self acceptance is a logical philosophy..

Answer 7

Hey
There's a treatment called CBT, it helps you understand your thought processes and how to work on them. Another thing to do is to start brisk walking.. I think it would help you feel more comfortable with yourself.. and aging?? we all have that syndrome..Hehe..Good Luck

Answer 8

GOD
Fill yourself up with him every single day and your world will change in your favor.
READ this book: The Purpose Driven Life!!! take the advice, practice loving yourself every single day, volunteer and take care of other people, treat other people as you woud yourself, and make other people feel special and your world will change guaranteed!!!

Answer 9

People don't make you feel anything - you do it yourself. You let people convince you, perhaps, but you are always in control.
If you want to feel bad about yourself, that's your choice.
It is then also your choice if you wish to hold yourself in better esteem.
Your call.

Answer 10

You really need to see a counselor. It has taken 30 years to make you the person you are---there is no quick fix to change it. You need counseling.