ok..so i just found out..i shoulda figured this out a long time ago..but for some reason..i never really thought about it....i look NOTHING like ANYONE on my dads side of the family.....at ALL...well..i asked my aunt..she said my mom was sleeping around when she got pregnant with me..i dont even look like my sisters..the only thing i got from my dad was the mole under my left eye...but i heard that if ur sleeping with 2 guys the baby can get traits from both guys....is my mom wrong for not telling me this?? and should i bring it up or just let it go and try to find my real dad later in life???
2007-09-21 15:14:21 · 13 answers · asked by sexi_blonde_chick2008 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Before you go "jumping to conclusions" are you positive you are not your fathers son?
I am from a family of 6 and let me tell you something, we all have just a little bit of us somewhere in one or the other parent, so be careful when approaching mom on the subject.
How would or could your mom tell you?
I don't know many people who have affairs admit to them. Look around on this site for example, people are having affairs everywhere and the person usually hurt is the one posting, which I guess is why we are on this particular area.
But think long and hard about your mom. Was she good to you? Did you feel loved by her? Were you provided a home with love, food and kindness?
If so, don't judge her to harshly.
If you want to "confront your mom" maybe you should ask her about it.
Why would your Aunt want to hurt you like that? Does your Aunt and your mom get along or have you noticed anything unusually about them?
Be careful, I have a sister who just loves to make make trouble, so you'll never know the truth untill you go to the source unfortunatelly....
I hope your Aunt is wrong, but did she at least give you a name since you said you might try and find your real dad later in life?
And you didn't mention if your dad was alive or not, I'm assuming he has passed away. If so, like I said watch your Aunt and give your mom the benefit of the doubt after you re-consider their relationship.
Good luck, I'll check back on your post to see if you added anything ok?
2007-09-21 15:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not get traits from both guys...one sperm fertilized one egg. Talk with your mom, as wisely advised by the others, but also, talk to your dad. This man is raising you or has raised you...he may be your biological father, but your mom had the dominate genes...if he is not your biological father...and this can be proved with a simple blood test, should you want to carry this that far...he is still your DAD. If he loves you and has been a good father to you, you are blessed. Unless there is no other option for you, I would not go looking for the other guy...you may not like what you find. My thoughts and prayers are with you, good luck!
2007-09-21 22:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Brother Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... it only takes ONE spermatozoa to fertilize ONE egg. So it would be only characteristics from one father.
Don't open that can of worms just yet... just consider for the time being that you inherited some recessive gene from waaaayyy back in your ancestry.
Grow up, get out of the house, and seek out your dad later in life... you will need his medical history.
Listen, there are a lot of families where the firstborn doesn't resemble the kids that came afterward. The mama was pregnant and got some guy to marry her, swearing that this kid was his. By the time of the birth, it was all a done-deal. The rest of the family was built from that point onward.
2007-09-22 01:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a Dad that loves you? That's all you need, sweetie. Find your biological Dad later in life. Remember not to judge Mom harshly, we all make mistakes and you may make a fair share of your own when you get older. Just live you life and try to be happy you are here.
2007-09-21 22:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by red 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing, and regardless of what you do its hard...i'm not sure if the traits thing is true with humans, but it is when it comes to animals like cats... the way i see it is just be happy with the dad you have. as far as i can tell he's been there for you your whole life and and whether or not he's your biological father him being there makes him a DAD in my books...maybe you can talk to your mother about it, find out the truth for yourself but think about how that would make your DAD thats been there for you feel...GOOD LUCK
2007-09-21 22:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would calm down and ask your mother. She is the one who can give you all the answers you need, not auntie. What you heard about sleeping with two guys, that just isn't true. Once the first sperm get into that egg, nothing else can get through. I am not sure what to think about your mom not tellling you. I would ask her when you aren't upset. She just might tell u.
2007-09-21 22:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by lahdeia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Genetics are a funny thing. My brother, sister and I look nothing like my father and we all look like my mother. However, we are all my fathers children. Just because you don't look like your dad means nothing.
When you are older, and feel that you can handle the truth (no matter what it is), tell your Mom what your Aunt said, say that it is really bothering you, and can she clarify it.
2007-09-21 22:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No your mom isn't wrong... You aunt is "totally" wrong for telling you something like that. She really crossed the line to tell you something that wasn't her business & I bet your mom will be pissed at her for doing so. What was her motive for doing something like that anyway??? It may not be true, so just calm down & have a sensible conversation with your mom when no one else is around. Good luck to ya!!!
2007-09-22 00:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Traits are passed through DNA, not just intercourse. If you got a mole from a guy, he impregnated your mom.
2007-09-21 22:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by joker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom and see what kind of answers she can give you. Sorry you have to deal with this
Best Wishes
2007-09-21 22:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by marcie1997 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋