okay iam kind of heated today?

Question

my aunt invited my cousin to my house for a spa party sunday the problem is we dont get along she has no respect for me and i get depress when iam around her. anyways my aunt is sneeky and always crosses the line and my cousin calls me i wasnt home but why else would she call and my aunt did the invite anyways what should i do if she calls back or comes to my house? so help me please anyways i asked my aunt she said no why do u want me to invite her and we should talk dispite everything shes ever done which is use and abuse and distroy families thats all

its my house she invited her to

Answer 1

I feel your pain therefore i can say it would be a good idea to try and keep your cool i don't know the whole situation but when i am around my cousin i just keep it simple if she talks to me i answer the question, most of the time with one word; if she doesn't i don't say a word. If things get out of hand and she/he starts drama just walk away and think bad thoughts...that was a joke.

Answer 2

I got heated today too. I understand how your aunt was pushing her (daughter? or her neice?) on you. She had no right to do that.

But as time goes by, in a couple days or so, think about your family and ask yourself if there's anything you could do to make things better for all of you? Would it help to get some things out in the open? Or are they just beyond hope?

I'm sorry you had a lousy day. I hope when the sun shines tomorrow, it will be a much nicer day than today. Do something nice for yourself. Go have a facial or have your nails done.

I hope this family relationship stuff can be thought out and a new beginning might be possible. If so, no doubt it will take a little time. But I hope maybe all it will take is one someone who says just the right thing.

Any way to laugh it off? You know laughter is such good medicine. And maybe that's all you need is to laugh yourself silly. A home spa party could do it???

All the best. Thank God all days are not like this one, eh?

Answer 3

Are you willing for your cousin to come to your house, for the sake of keeping the peace?

How I see it, you have several choices:

1) Let your cousin come, and say nothing.

2) Let your cousin come, but remind your aunt that it is not her right to invite people to your home and if she does it again she will be unwelcome, too.

3) Let your cousin come, and use the day to make your peace.

4) Contact your aunt and let her know her invitation to your cousin is cancelled, and that as she invited her she can tell her.

5) Contact your cousin and say 'Don't bothert coming, you are not welcome'

6) Cancel the day and tell everyone not to come.

Wow, have you got a lot of choices!

Personally, I think families are the best and worst for this type of thing. Obviously your aunt feels it's her role to 'sort out' the problems between you and your cousin, and for the sake of family peace she has overstepped the mark and made an invitation beyond her rights.

Did she do this to be a good person or just for the drama value? To me, that would have a lot of impact on what I did.

If you don't feel you can resolve things with your cousin, even to the point of just being polite but not friendly to her, don't have her in your house and let everyone know that is your decision.

BUT, family is with you a loooooong time, and unless you honestly feel you cannot make peace, it is often best to be on civil terms.

You don't have to be friends, but the chances are you will run into each other at family get-togethers for years to come, and unless you want to not be part of all those events, you are going to have to find a way to be in the same room without verbal abuse or bloodshed.

Why not consider making the peace, but letting your aunt know that what she has done is NOT OK and she is not to do it again. Don't get friendly with the cousin, just polite. And leave it at that. You don't HAVE to mix with them outside of family things.

Good luck and best wishes! :-)

Answer 4

This is your time to make a decision. Your aunt has every right to invite anyone to her house she wishes to invite. Whether you accept the invite or not is up to you.

You are in control of your own actions and not anyone else's.

Answer 5

ok what i would honestly do.. is pay it no attention. If you feel this strongly about not liking her- it probably wont go away right away, but the less attention you give something- the less important it becomes. If she comes let her come- if she calls - dont get mad.. just be normal.. be happy, be yourself.. make her feel like, her shyt does not bother you at all. If she insults you, just laugh.. and be like. "oh ha ha- man your soo funny" as what she sais .. really is not important.. trust me.. people that try to get to you, usually hate when it dosent work.. that makes the more fun in ignoring them.

Answer 6

i think of you ought to decide for her, in the adventure that your heart races whilst your palms meet, there is obviously something great there. there is not something incorrect with having thoughts for somebody of the comparable intercourse. Society places those regulations on human beings, this is not incorrect however. in case you like her, tell her,,otherwise she ought to easily locate somebody else and pass on. additionally , if the guy you're with is in basic terms. "ok", take a wreck from him and attempt issues out along with her. It sounds such as you prtty plenty already comprehend what you prefer, yet do not understand the thank you to pass approximately getting it.

Answer 7

I think the reason why you're depressed is because you'd like to rip her limbs out but can't do it acceptably. Until your dealings with her become at least civil, realize that your rage causes this and maybe it may help you to think more clearly. Then deal with her when you're in control of yourself.

Answer 8

Just be the better person and kill her with kindness. Works EVERY time! :) And good luck! I hope it goes well for you.

Answer 9

cant we all just get along lol