How Do I Start A Conversation With A Girl If I Have Nothing To Talk About... ?????

Question

ive been SO busy lately... so my social life is non-existent... but when i see a girl im attracted to.. its killing me that i cant get to know her... i have nothing to talk about... what can i do... and i cant just not be busy cuz its stuff i MUST do to go to college... yea im in high school too...

girls in high school are very attracted to status... if ur in high school u know what im talkin about...

so help me out, im going insane... and put in ur sources if ur in high school or not...

Answer 1

Start by saying "Cows moo and bugs fart." :-)

Answer 2

If you are that busy.then you should have alot to say. If you see the girl...then why can you take a little time out to say hello? Talking about college should be a positive thing albeit very busy. Sounds like you are stressing out. Take a break from the college stress befre you do drive yourself crazy. You need some social life .so make some time for your sanity and your well-being. College will fall into place soon enough. It's a big decison, but I am now 59 and didn't go to college until I was 44 rs. old. I got a one year scholarship, worked a part-time job, volunteered 3 days a week at a hospital and had to keep at leasta 3.0 GPA. I had a 3.50 GPA and I made it. It was a crazy life, but not impossible. I also had a relationship and dated too. I felt like a hamster on a fast speed wheel.. Sit down and plan out some time for each thing and balance things. It seems like you are Type A personality like me. I wanted to get all A's and strived but it wasn't possible but I came close. I was my own worse enemy. Does this sound like you? I may be older but I still remember it all. You won't do well if you don't balance out your life. I hope you take my advice. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

If they r the type of girls that r interested in status then they are not worthy of breathing the same air as u! Learn to love yourself, by that I mean don't b down on urself and exude self confidence, it's not status or physical appearance that attracts a person to u, it's confidence but b careful not to be arrogant and how your percieved, believe in urself and the girls will come 2 u. Time is irrelevant, u won't find if u look 2 hard.

Answer 4

Well, just talk about what's on your mind! Ask the girl if she works too, or if she's planning on going to college too? Break the ice with anything you can think of. Ask what her favorite music is, or if she likes the movies, and if so, what kind? Comedies, dramas, etc. Let one thought lead to another. There are so many things in life. Does she like cars, does she drive? Or just ask what her interests or hobbies are. Is she into fashion or into sports or dancing or yoga? Just think of yourself and ask questions that you'd like someone to ask you. It only takes one question to get a conversation going. If the girl is a bit shy or quiet after answering, then ask another. She and you will get going eventually. The trouble with a lot of people is that they think everyone else is like an alien or from a different planet or something. To connect with any girl, all you have to do is ask her opinion on various things from a girl's point of view. If you look at the potential girl objectively, that hey, she's human too, it should be easier for you to find things to say. Girls are no different than your own mother, they're just a lot younger. But your mother was once like they were, young, with not a lot of people experience. No special antics are required. Just be yourself to attract the right people for you. Those changing themselves to fit some ideal, will lose, because you'll start missing all the right people. You can only be you. And don't pretend you have nothing to talk about. It's all there in your head but you're blocking the flow because your expectations are in the way! Drop all that! Whatever others seem to look like they're doing around you, never mind. Be you and do it your way! Trust me, one question will lead to another and soon, a conversation is started. Girls are no different than you really. Yes, I know, male and female differences exist, but both sides are just as human as the other. So remember that. No other mumbo jumbo required. To help you get out of yourself, try talking to girls you're not so crazy about and see how that goes. Then take your knowledge from that, and go on to more of a challenge. Dare to talk to a girl you really like. It'll happen. Just never give up. And though I'm not in high school now or even university anymore, I've got to say I kept seeing a problem for a lot of guys when I was in school. I saw too many guys aiming for girls that had nothing in common with them. You've got to focus on girls that would be your type, not just by looks or whatever. If you're sporty, angle toward that type. If you're arty, then go for that type. You should be able to tell somehow which girl could be similar to you and your interests. Look beyond the physical exterior and try to see the real person behind the face. You know the saying, "You can't judge a book by its' cover"! I just get the feeling you're telling yourself something that's blocking the flow of your own personality. Also, one statement you made is false, that girls in high school are very attracted to status. No, only status seekers are attracted to status. And that's not all girls! So take the blinders off, and pay a little closer attention to real facts and not assumptions. That'll come as you get more people experience, but try not to have preconceived ideas about people in general. We are all individuals. Everyone is truly quite different from another. It takes a lot to discover the depth of another person, but start with truth and honesty, and eventually, you'll find your way! And truthfully, talking to any girl is no different than talking to any guy! We're more like one another than we realize! Good luck!

Answer 5

First you start with a sincere compliment - whatever attracted you to this woman in the first place. "Wow, I really like the way you did your hair today." Then you ask her about herself. Where is she applying to college? Where does she get her hair done? Do her parents let her go out with really sexy guys or just dorks? Any silly question will do. The trick is to get her talking about something that she is interested in. After you listen for awhile, maybe you are starting to get interested in her, maybe not.

I am 67 years old and I have finally learned how to talk to girls - or guys for that matter.

Answer 6

Well, I'm in high school and I don't care about status, BUT...if people at your school do, whatev, lol.

If you wanna get to know a girl, go up to her and introduce yourself. Ask her about school, music she likes, TV shows she might enjoy, books she's read, movies she's seen, etc. Just let her talk to you. If she asks you a question, answer, but don't ramble. Let her talk. That way, you learn about her, AND she learns about you, but you don't come on too strong.

Good luck! I know how hard it is to talk to a crush of the opposite sex, lol!

Answer 7

Just walk up, and tell her your trying to be social, so we can just sit here in silence and its fine with you.

She'll most likely laugh.

I dont know your style though if you like a Seth Cohen or a Ryan (The OC)

Just go with your strong point. If you are nervous to talk to girls...tell the girl your talking to. She'll be thrilled your talking about how you feel.

OH, and totally dont go with the "bumping into her by accident" thing that the other girl suggested. BAD idea. That's gottta backfire dude. lol

Answer 8

I've graduated high school and college. Been through it in both high school and college and understand what you're saying.

You have plenty to talk about, your desire to go to college, what you are interested in studying in college, what her plans are, whether status is important to her or not. Your family, her family, what you both like to do, movies, skating, books, music, poems, colors, foods, etc. GET IT. Ask questions and volunteer the same information about yourself. She will probably have a lot of questions to ask you, too.

Answer 9

Well, your not encouraging yourself now aren't you.
First off, don't pressure yourself.
Second off, try to realize that rejection isn't the end of the world
Third off, you have plenty to say, your just too shy

Start off simple, just like every single other interaction, say hi, ask her how she's doing, ask her about a homework...start slowly if she doesn't know you. From there, you should be fine, but don't put out expectations on a girl you don't know...you'll just freak her out.

Answer 10

its only awkward if you make it awkward. conversations are made to end. Like when you are with a guy friend and there is no awkward silence. My advice would be if the conversation stops don't be nervous that its quite. cause she will sense that nervousness and then she will get nervous. then it gets awkward.

Answer 11

Do you share similar classes? Is she interested or in any clubs? Does she know any of your friends? Do you know any of hers?

These are some of the major gateways to random conversations..:) If she is in a club, try joining it! Make your self available to her!! OH yeah and if your a funny guy, use that to your advantage. Whatever your thing is, be confident in it, that is very attractive.

Good luck to you:)