ok i love my boyfrind best guy i have ever had and i know thats bad and but he dont work work just do od jobs still live with his mom and dad and hes 25 saying he going to go to school soon but i dont know and its not like he wants me to buy him anything but i'm like his first girls friend i mean he went out with a girl before for the summer but that was when he was in school and i was the first girl he ever had sex with but when hes here with me he all over me and not with sex always wanting me to hold him trying to hold me down when i have to cook dinner go to the store or sit down even when i'm next to him and gets mad at me when i need to do it and wants to talk to me on the phone for like 5 hours a day its driving me crazy and i have guy friends and he dont want them to come over and chill he saids its hurting his feelings how do i tell him to man up in a nice way with out hurting his feeling????????????please help
2007-09-21 13:20:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please tell him that, if it does not improve the bottom line is do you still enjoy your life thanks to the fact that you are with him? if yes, stay with him. if no, throw him back to the street to bother someone else. Good luck.
2007-09-21 13:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first thought when I read this... he is immature. If he isn't working full time while he isn't in school and he is still living with mom and dad... and he doesn't understand that you have house hold things to do on a daily basis like cook dinner and he constantly wants to be attatched to you... he sounds immature and clingy. I say move on... ESPCIALLY since he doesn't respect you haveing other male friends.
2007-09-21 20:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Katie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I personally think you should leave him. I know it would be difficult but here is why:
1. Financially not secure
2. Little to no ambition
3. Possibly could turn out to be a very controlling individual
4. Very dependant.
5. Insecure
6. Smothering
Seriously THINK about it very hard. I'm sure he is a very nice individual but that is not always everything that you should base you decision upon.
2007-09-21 20:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ben H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From other information, he sounds like a potential abuser. Not that bad, but he thinks he owns you. You need to tell him straight up: "I love you with all my heart, but in order for this relationship to go anywhere, you should go back to school and I need to start taking care of things." Tell him romantic nights and late night talks won't be delayed, but you need to do what's best for the relationship.
2007-09-21 20:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Lonni ♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him I am speaking from experience, I dated a guy like this for four months.(age 36) I think it is behaviour that could lead into emotional abuse as they are so controlling. As soon as I broke up with him, I felt enourmous relief people like this suck the life right out of you, he is far too needy and nothing you do will solve this. Don't worry about his feelings you are not responsible for his happiness only your own.
2007-09-21 20:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by c_t_5_2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares if he is sensitive if you feel sooo annoyed by him and he sounds like it just bring it to him-he can handle it. OR just say what you think is best to him that would still be nice but let's him know he has to change.
2007-09-21 20:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Nickname 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a loser, and he'll most likely never amount to anything. Sleep with his father.
2007-09-21 20:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him everything you just told us./
2007-09-21 20:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by xX:JOEKICKASS:Xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to him not us.
2007-09-21 20:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by so_hot12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell us, tell him.
2007-09-21 20:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋