Well, I kinda liked this girl and she probably didn't like me. I went to a dance last night she went too and her friend asked me to dance with her and I said yes so we dance for a while. All her friends wanted her to hook up and all my friends wanted me to hook up but she didn't want to so we didn't. Later on through the dance my friend kept dragging me back to her asking if she would dance with me again because he wanted me to hook up with her but she said no every time. So after a few tries my friend gave up at it and the rest of the night seemed normal. But now, the next morning my friend's talking to her on msn and she keeps saying how she thinks I was stalking her at the dance because I kept asking her to dance, but really it was all my friend's doing not mine. And now she hates me, she has blocked me on msn and my friend too so I can't contact her that way really unless I get another friend to do it. How can I make her realize that the whole thing was possibly a misunderstanding?
2007-09-21 13:07:56 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps. I don't go to her skool
2007-09-21 13:12:32 · update #1
also, I don't see her in person all the time so that complicates some things
2007-09-21 13:16:29 · update #2
gosh man you rly blew it!
but don't give up hope, you can be redeemed.
make sure you don't keep trying to bug her,
but when you get a chance, smile at her, be friendly and then make sure that you come across the point that you don't wanna stalk her, you weren't trying to, & that you just think she's nice.
Even if your friends have to tell her, it's better than not.
Hope I helped! =]
2007-09-21 13:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by sierrasaysyo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is her loss. You both sound so young, or all of you. Sometimes girls react weird if they like you and you don't keep pursuing them. Sometimes, they just like drama and will bring things up that are not true just to get attention. You found out what she is really like. Is it really worth talking to her about it. It sounds like she is pretty sure in her mind.
Do you have her email or her phone number? Tell her you did like her as a friend and your mutual friend wanted to have you both dance. You can apologize for keep asking with your mutual friend and then that is it. You can see her at school and tell her, or write her a note. Leave it at that. God knows the truth and you should not feel guilty if you did like her prior. You found out that she is probably a drama queen and maybe friends may be the only thing you can be in the future. If people ask you about it, you can tell them your side of the story. Don't waste anymore time on her than apologizing for her feeling like she was stalked when you asked her to dance. Stalking is a hard word for what seems to have happened.
2007-09-21 13:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her. Maybe she doesn't want to talk. Misunderstandings happen all the time, but don't let your friend take all the blame and completley tell her that it was him. Be kinda honest, if you like her tell her. If she won't listen, write her a letter, adress it annoymnus so she doesn't know it's you before she reads it, before you right everything that happened tell her that you are really sorry about what happenned, a nice aplogy is what she deserved. Then you may start explaining to her exactly (PERSISLY) what happened that night of the dance,
2007-09-21 13:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by [[chasing_nightmares?]] 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you see her at school or if you see her somewhere else ask her if you can talk too her about what happend at the dance because you think she has it all mixed up. tell her that it wasnt your doing at all you didnt know that your friend was going up too her constantly and all you just asked once an let it be. your friends were the ones that were so into getting you an her together. exsplain it all too her, if you dont see her anywhere regulary, then ask one of your girl friends that you have if they can talk too her and straighten it out. thats the only thing i can think of an if she doesnt want too talk sorry bud but i would back off and let her be. if not you will end up getting you self into some trouble. but best of luck.
2007-09-21 13:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
gosh guy you rly blew it! yet do not supply up desire, you will properly be redeemed. be certain you do not shop attempting to computer virus her, yet once you get a risk, smile at her, be friendly and then purely be certain you come around the element which you do not wanna stalk her, you weren't attempting to, & which you purely think of she's fantastic. even in the experience that your associates ought to tell her, it particularly is better than not. desire I helped! =]
2016-10-19 08:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, some high school girls turn on a dime with that stalker stuff, my son has a gf who constantly plays that game---but this girl u described, leave alone now, u just met her, your friend and u should let it be......or u are a stalker. I get ur insistence its not the case but u all did dog her.
2007-09-21 13:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try an talk to one of her really close friends they will get the word to her, but, don't try to hard because you'll really seem like a stalker and you don't want that.
2007-09-21 13:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by nache_042000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to her at school and explain the WHOLE thing
dont skip the parts about hooking up they are the most important parts.
2007-09-21 13:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Not Hipster. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man that sux, but using the word stalker is a bit excessive, i world just straight up ask her to start a new and that you wanted to dance but were to nervous to ask.
2007-09-21 13:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since she has cut off contact with you,I'd wait a few days for her to calm down.Then I'd write her a letter explaining it.If she responds fine,if she doesn't fine.At least you made an effort.
2007-09-21 13:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Babylove 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋