I messed up things with a man, big time. We weren't friends first, we met pretty randomly. It started off pretty normally I guess , two people getting to know each other...I fell hard. I felt he liked me back. The problem is we are both very shy. The bigger problem is, I'm very insecure with myself. As time progressed I convinced myself I wasn't pretty enough, good enough, smart enough...I was way too shy and I let some good opportunities pass. I think he got tired of waiting and being unsure of my intentions, and got fed up with me.
Here's where it gets more complicated. We aren't close and we haven't spoken in about 3 months. But we see each other ALL the time. I think we both feel like there is this big unfinished business between us...we don't avoid each other, but there seems to be hurt and anger between us. I hate it.
With any other man I would have moved on. But I really like this man. I feel so bad about it all. How can a broken crush between strangers be fixed?
2007-09-21 12:51:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you think talking it over with him would work or be a good idea? We're not like best pals or anything. I feel like we feel the same way, but at the same time I have like this crippling fear that he hates me and is wondering why I can't take a hint.
2007-09-21 13:11:49 · update #1
Sit down and talk with him and tell him how you are feeling. Honesty and communication are the best things in any relationship. You cannot solve or go on with anything if you remain quiet. Just make sure you know if it doesn't turn out the way you want or expected, you will know you have grown in being able to discuss your feelings. It is a growing opportunity. Tell him you would like to be friends and get to know him better. Best wishes.
2007-09-21 12:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way it can be fixed is by talking about what happened between you.
2007-09-21 19:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by c_t_5_2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple. pluck up the courage. and confront him. and tell him how you feelings are. he is not going to bite your head off. he his thinking on the same lines as your are. so go on give it a go. good luck. wish you all the best.
2007-09-21 20:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋