A casual friend of my husbands & a new acquaintance of mine said this to us recently after her love life came up in conversation " You (my husband) are my marriage match and you (me) are my soulmate match"...she is really into Astrology & Horoscopes.....
My husband met this girl thru friends before I did & I do know that she did have a crush on him a while back-(before we were married,but while we were dating- I was out of state for a few months) but,why on earth would a girl say this? I hardly know her,and my husband has never,ever had interest in her & I am not worried a bit that he has feelings for her,so ,no worries there.
Why would a girl say this,and in front of a guys wife? I know I never would-no matter how comfortable I felt. I doubt she knows that I am aware of her past crush on my hubby,but even so,how odd!
We both just looked at her like "No, you did not just say that!"- What would have been an appropriate response?
And also, most importantly, why do you all think someo
2007-09-21 12:37:47 · 13 answers · asked by RebbieRebel 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Wow, that really was inappropriate. In my business (singles) I meet a lot of people who simply do not know any better. If she'd said that to him alone, it could have been properly considered a come-on. In front of you, she probably thought it was a cute way to flatter him without it SEEMING like a come-on. She just simply should have known better -- but probably she didn't. And, she probably doesn't have a friend good enough to set her straight about these things. Unless you want to take on that role, just roll your eyes (privately), chalk it up to cluelessness, and move on.
2007-09-21 18:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she is really into horoscopes and astrology - that doesn't mean she can't be a little more reasonable in what she says to people.
In your case, you and your husband proved that her astrology and horoscope reading is 'way off base.
I would have been tempted to say, "Well I hope you are as fortunate in finding a husband match as I was" and let it go at that. But yes, it was a very strange thing to say, whether she thought you knew about her past crush or not.
I don't think I'd follow up on the soulmate match thing - and in fact, would try to keep her at a distance. Friends like that, no one needs!
When we were dating, my husband and I were told that our signs were incompatible. And just to show how accurate astrology can be, we celebrated our 50th anniversary several years ago - and we're still in love with each other and still best friends as well.
2007-09-21 13:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is odd but as you said she is very into astrology and horoscopes so she probably meant that his sign or whatever else was compatible for her to marry adn yours is her actual true soulmate. even though she had a crush on him the fact that she included you in that comment I think would mean its astrology only. It is still odd since she hardly knows you and you could have said "okay?..." and kinda laughed it off. I really dont think she meant any harm
2007-09-21 13:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Vicky Lovers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just affirming what I've known for a long time. The stars are wrong.
It's also possible that her crush isn't really over, but just underground, so to speak. I would guess that maybe her conclusion came from her horoscope, and if she really believes it that much, maybe she thought what was predicted would happen no matter how tactless she is.
If I were you, I would try to just spend less time around her.
2007-09-21 12:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by cindylouwho38 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I might have pointed out in a nice way that she misread the stars because you know that he is YOUR marriage match. And that you were glad she felt so close to you.
(I would also keep an eye on her :P )
2007-09-21 12:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by Wormwood 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's hinting, and in a not so subtle way, that she'd like to be involved in a menage-a-trois or threesome with you and your husband. Tell your husband you feel uncomfortable around her and that you'd prefer not to socialize with her anymore as a couple.
2007-09-21 12:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your chum is being slightly dramatic. He must be happy he's having a healthful toddler and not disenchanted over the gender. the toddler isn't even born yet and he's already disapointed at her.
2016-10-05 03:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once was engaged to a man, and we went to a bd party. and this new girl of a friend came, and kept looking at me, and, I asked my fiance at that time, why does she keep looking at me? his response was oh shes stupid, i was at the bar last sat. and she and her friend came in together.about two weeks later, I went out with my friends, at a new spot, guess who was at a table all cozy together? you guess it.
yup that stupid girl..they got married shortly after that.
what I am saying is watch your back.
2007-09-21 12:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Why Would This Girl Say this to My husband & me? Is there are Appropriate Response?)
I would say, "That is really very interesting."
2007-09-21 15:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by Yank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing need be said. The woman is clearly a froot loop.
2007-09-21 14:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋