i was hanging around her during lunch and after school with a couple of her friends and i started noticing that she was staring at me a lot and everytime when someone is talking she stares at me... not the person. i don't know what 2 do!!! she would look hot as a guy if she was a guy but she's a girl!! and i'm not a lezbian at all please help because homecoming is coming up and she keeps talking about who she doesn't know who to go with and i have a BIG feeling that she'll ask me!! i don't know what to say 2 her!!!
2007-09-21 12:13:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
o... wow. well jsut tell her that u r going with someone else i guess
2007-09-21 12:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by *♥Jinx♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are actually in denial. I think you find her so col and interesting because she IS a lesbian. You are having a problem accepting that you have an interest in her as well. This is normal behavior when the realization hits you. I don't know of too many straight girls that hang out with lesbians at the HS level. Most are very afraid of being labelled by others.... If you notice she's looking at you, then you have been looking at her too. And you have also noticed how atractive she is.... you're just trying to justify it by saying if she were a guy... I am not saying you're a lesbian, I am saying you are curious though.
2007-09-21 19:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I can understand that you must be really uncomfortable. I think she'll expect you to be straight so I wouldn't worry about it too much. No need to confront her about it. You guys might be the best of friends one day! You never know...So don't expect her to ask you to homecoming. If she does, I'll give her props for her bravery. Maybe you could drop some hints that you're straight: like, mention a guy that you think is cute or something like that?
2007-09-21 19:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start talking about a guy you are interested in, she will probably get the point. If she were to ask you just tell her you enjoy her as a friend nothing else. (and don't worry too much, many schools will only allow tickets for male and female couples)
2007-09-21 19:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by julvrug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, or...sorta give hints that you are interested in another GUY. let her know, not by telling her, but just actions that you are mostly interested in guys and have no interest in girls in that sort of way. that way she'll understand and won't be that hurt and you wont rly have to tell her directly. trust me, my friend is bisexual and shes always staring at me in class and it grosses me out., so i just avoid her, and thats another thing u could do, just avoid her. if you relly like her as a friend and wanna be her friend just let her know in a way that you arent attracted to girls, but guys. or if she asks you to homecoming just say "sorry no" apologize and treat it like its a guy asking u out. she needs to understand that. dont be afraid of hurting her feelings or w.e, cuz ur the one who will be feeling down if you dont let her know someway. its not ur fault u arent lezbo lol
2007-09-21 19:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she asks you to the game you can still go. if she says or does anything that makes you think she is coming on to you just tell her that you like her as a friend and you don't want to ruin it by doing something you totally don't feel comfortable doing and ruining the friendship
2007-09-21 19:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by george 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ewww l0o0ol get used to it cuz thats highschool. i was a friend wit this girl for sooo long untill one day one of her friends came and told me she was bi and i dont lean dat way so i just tryed stayin away from her and only say hi if she does just be nice u aint gotta talk to her but if she says hi answer her back
2007-09-21 19:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're interested, say yes. If you're not interested, say no.
Pretty much the same way you would treat a guy that asks you to homecoming.
What makes you think she's a lesbian?
2007-09-21 19:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you enjoy her friendship, but that you prefer the opposite sex when it comes to dating. In fact it would probably be best to tell her before she asks you out; that way she won't be as embarrassed!
2007-09-21 19:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth.
2007-09-21 19:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her nicely...
if you were a guy then you'd go out with her,
but that you just don't go that way
apologize at the end
2007-09-21 19:17:53 · answer #11 · answered by Susmitaaa♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋