How important do you think it is to tell your family that you no longer follow the same religion as they do?
I moved away from home and now I live in a different state. While I was in college my views on my religion changed to something they may not approve of. Should I tell them about it anyway? Or just keep it to myself?
2007-09-21 10:39:22 · 24 answers · asked by emerald_wang85 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You need to look into yourself and think of WHY you desire to tell them. Is it to create, or nurture, an open and honest relationship? Or, is it to let them know you have become your own person, despite them? Will it bring a closer connection or, a greater divide? What kind of association do you want with your parents? You also need to remember that your feelings now will not always remain the same. Of course, that being said, neither would theirs. If they don't accept you at first, it may take a while but, chances are, you are their child they'll come around and love you for WHO you are, not disapprove for what you've chosen to believe.
)o( Blessed Be!
2007-09-21 10:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by whillow95 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How important is your religion to you? If it's a central part of your life, then why wouldn't you want to share it with those who love you most? If you believe strongly in your convictions, then why hide them because you fear other people's disapproval?
Don't you want to be able to be real and honest with your family? Shouldn't you be able to be comfortable being yourself? Your family may not approve, but they should love you for who you are and where you're at, not the idealized you they would like you to be.
That doesn't mean you should dig in your heels and never listen to anything they say. But it does mean you should keep the lines of communication honest and open. Hearing each other's hearts is a way of showing you value that other person.
2007-09-21 10:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Rella 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Eventually they will find out. Are you ashamed of the new religion probably not so tell them.
Are you ashamed of the way your family may view you... Then maybe you think you have done something wrong.
Either way they should hear it from you and not when your new religion makes the world news. lol
2007-09-21 10:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by staymay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha. it particularly is humorous because of the fact I tremendously plenty went interior the direction of the magnificent same element. My parents are the two die-confusing Christian (in no way pass to church, although) and that i chanced on Buddhism to be a greater physically powerful in positive condition for me, to boot. I got here to the tip that telling them grew to become into pointless so i've got saved myself the hardship and the drama by utilising no longer doing so. i attempted speaking to my mom approximately it once or twice, yet she merely is going off on a Christian rant and gets annoyed (it particularly is ironic because of the fact she loves staring at documentaries and whatnot approximately different cultures/religions), and that i've got no longer afflicted to talk to my dad approximately it. they won't in any respect substitute their minds approximately their very own faith (no longer that i think of they might desire to), and that they gained't be happy approximately my decision in mine. So why disenchanted them over some thing that they are going to in no way even observe?
2016-10-05 03:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
If you will be able to face them and bear the consequences, then you should tell them, otherwise wait till you are able to face them with you new status.
What's far more important, in my opinion, is that you should make sure you made the right decision by reading more and more about your new religion, religion is the most critical beliefs of everyone and changing it is, doubtless, the most important and critical decisions one can take in their entire life.
2007-09-21 23:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Green visitor is back :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to wait until you are independent to mention it to them
if your religion is not a cult and doesn't invlove criminal activities then you're fine
your family only wants what's best for you and fear for your safety and believe in their religion, they will always love you no matter what but if you depend on them financially wait until you graduate and get a stable job before telling them
i'm thankful to God that i share my family's religion and have no doubt that it is the truth but if i had any doubt about anything important i would confront them and no one would be able to change my mind . that may not be practical for everyone and you should take care of yourself.
i know a hindu who converted to islam and never let her family know because she feared their persecution and still prays secretly , i respect her , i i also respect a girl who converted to christianity from hinduism and told her parents, they didn't like it but respected her decision. her parents are very understanding and supportive of her, not all parents are like hers.
good luck.
2007-09-21 10:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by sweet tooth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid to tell someone what religion you are, have you really, deep down been converted to it and become a part of it?
If you have followed this new religion because you believe they teach the truth more accurately, then don't be afraid to stand up for truth!
Remember, the most important thing your parents probably taught you is that you should try to do what is right!
If you have found this new religion to be right, then you would be honoring your parents by following it.
Even though they taught you another religion, and they believe what they taught is right, the most important thing they taught is you should do what you find to be right.
If you continue in a religion that you have found to be not as true, you may be following their instructions on that, but you will be violating their more important teaching to always try to do what is right!
Explain it to them in this way, but be prepared to also give reasons (evidence, scripture references, etc.) why you believe in your new religion!
2007-09-21 10:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by JoeBama 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell them!!! If you keep your religion from your family, then when they would eventually find out they may feel betrayed, and hurt. If you can't trust your family to respect your beliefs, then who can you trust. Just give them the benefit of the doubt and put your trust in them. Good luck!
2007-09-21 10:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe this is a question only you can answer.
If you're concerned, perhaps put out some feelers to those you trust.. see what their views are on your particular beliefs.. from there, you can take it where you like.
I wish you many blessings on your chosen path.
2007-09-21 10:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by Kallan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends..
In your opinion, do you think changing religions is an event in your life that is worth informing your parents about..?
2007-09-21 10:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋