Forgive and Forget?

Question

I'm disabled, legally blind and because of my limitations live with my mother and her husband. He has been sexually molesting me for the past year. I finally told my mom but to my surprise she's choosing to behave as though nothings wrong. Hubby still lives in the same house with me. I have no where to go. What should I do? I feel mom's betrayed me by continuing to treat hubby like a prince even after what he's done. I'm frightened, disappointed and depressed. I'm not old enough for senior services, my pastor is not educated in family counsel and SSD does not afford me enough to rent my self an apartment. I stay in my room when he's home, but the sound of his voice makes my skin crawl. I know that biblically I should forgive him, but I can't. I'm having trouble with my mom's apparent lack of loyalty to me.. her husband is "addicted to porno" and uses that as his excuse for creeping into my room at night. Opinions? Please only mature, thoughtful answers ... this is painful

Answer 1

Dear Sister,

I am very sorry to hear that. I could never imagine! You MUST call the authorities. There are places you can call that will guide you. You cannot be quite! I will email you with some information. Believe it or not this will be one topic in our newsletter next month!
My love and prayers go to you! You must be strong!
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Answer 2

The first thing you have to do is pick up the phone and call the police. Then they can put you in touch with the right people to get you out of that mess. Your check may be small, but you should qualify for food stamps, Medicare/Medicaid, Hud housing, and all kinds of things. The only thing you have to do is stop allowing this to happen to you. You mother is hiding from the truth, she will not help so you have to help yourself. Medicare and Medicaid can also get you some one to help you, and there is agencies to get you trained to take care of your own place and your own fincnces. The solution is that you have to take that first step, it's a biggie. One other thought
you must have some special equipment for your computer already, or you wouldn't be able to get the answers we are typing. Maybe you can call some one there to get some help too. Good luck

Answer 3

Forgiveness is good bit I just forgive and ill never act the same around them my mom used to hit ne when I was 3 and I don't trust her I do anything behind her back so I just forgive but I also forget!

Answer 4

i would call either social services or the law. next time he molests you call the law immediately while you still have his DNA on you and the police can take you to the hospital and by God you can prove rape then and they will help get you out of there. I know it sounds mean & cruel but so is what they are doing to you and you have to stop it somehow, you have to protect yourself since this woman you call mom wont! I swear the law will be on you side and put you somewhere safe, and you will get your check...not your mom. they will lose the goose that layed the golden egg and this is why your mom continues to let it happen! I promise the law will be on your side but you get that ba*tards DNA first and everything else will fall into place for you.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry this has happened to you,and how your mother chooses to ignore the situation.I believe that you need to tell the authorities about what this creep has been doing to you,and your mothers part in this situation.You need to feel safe in your own home not frightened and depressed,after you tell the police about this you need to try and contact the social security administration in your city and see what services they can offer to you and maybe find different housing options for you since you cannot care for yourself.You don't have to forigve this sack of ****(forgive me for not using a better choice of words)for what he's done to you,the same has been done to me and i have never forgiven. (i don't think i ever will).Only when it is in your heart to forgive do you forgive him,but if it is not in your heart i would not,its not like he deserves it anyway.There are so many options out there for you,also call this number: 211,i believe it is state wide and they can help you with this situation,but first this waste of human life needs to be put in jail so you can be safe,and your mother also needs to face the music for not protecting her own child.Goodluck and please let me know if everything turns out well.

Answer 6

You are in abuse. Your mother is in denial and isn't going to do anything that rocks her little boat. She isn't going to help you, so you might as well help yourself.

1. Talk to the police and ask for help... talk to their sex crimes unit. You need a trip to a hospital and a rape kit. They can refer you to agencies that can get you out of there. They can also arrest him.

2. Go to the local hardware store and get a real keyed lock (preferably a deadbolt) to put on your bedroom door so he can't bust in and mess with you.

3. Try talking to the local women's shelter (like the Houston Area Women's Center, http://www.hawc.org) which has people that have a great deal of experience in navigating the maze of social agencies. Try calling the local United Way also, because they help fund a lot of these programs.

Answer 7

You have a serious problem. I think you should call those anonymous rape help line and talk to one of the representative. I am sure they will help you find a place to stay and resolve this issue. It is so sad that your mom is not doing anything about this. Do you have friends or relatives that can help you?

Answer 8

You need to call the police on this creep, and don't worry about hurting your moms feelings she is not worrying about yours. Or take a big butcher knife to bed with you tonight and when the creep sneaks in use it to cut his thing off so he can't do this to you anymore.

Answer 9

my advise to you is call the police on him. and i;m very sorry your mom is not taking your side, that actually makes her more guilty than him cause she knows it! please talk to someone get some help!