we have been together for 4 years,i love him so much and i have never looked at another guy 'that way' since i've been with him,but he gets jealous,he ignores me for hours afterwards.it got bad once he attacked a friend of mine just because he put his arm around my shoulder in a friendly way.
2007-09-21 10:12:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh hes never hurt me and he never will.i am just worried about him,i dont want him to go to jail for murder and i worry about other guys being on the recieving end of his jealously.
2007-09-21 10:28:09 · update #1
the friend he attacked...hes known him for 11 years.and frankly i dont allow strangers just to 'grope' me anyway,i only allow my friends to touch me.
2007-09-21 10:32:32 · update #2
your boyfriend,. first of all needs to control his anger. secondly... he is probably sufferring from low self esteem... and is afraid someone is going to take you from him. however.. this is pushing you away anyway and he should know this. anger issues do not go away over night.. so you have decide whether you want to wait around.. until you are attacked.
2007-09-21 10:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I will admit a little jealousy is okay and could be constructive for a relationship. His jealousy however as went overboard, that sounds more like he has a trust issue. First off there is nothing wrong with looking, comments aren't necessary, but looking subtly is okay. A study was actually done that showed that, fantasizing or looking at other people then your partner, made the physical and mental state of a relationship 30% better (give or take a little). You need to sit with him and discuss his trust issues with you. Also you need to consider they say that, when someone cheats they start accusing the other party more often, maybe you need to question why he is acting this way. As for him attacking your friend, that's stepping over the line, does he have a right to feel uncomfortable that you friend had his arm around you? Yes he has every right to be uncomfortable with it, I think if my boyfriend had his arm around a girl, or vica versa, I would be pissed off also, but I wouldn't attack her, nor would my boyfriend, but we would talk like adults about it, and express our concern and how it made us feel and then work to make sure it doesn't happen in the future. If he can't get his jealousy and trust issues under control it could become a big problem, perhaps bigger then what is at hand. You need to sit with him and if it doesn't seem to change you need to first hand evaluate your relationship and figure out how healthy this is not only for you but for him also. Good Luck!
2007-09-21 10:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by jennqt341 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....he thinks that u cannot be trusted. but ironically I'm sure that he tells u that it's not u that he doesn't trust....it's the guys! been there and done that. this guy is totally insecure and afraid to death that he's gonna lose u. but let me tell u something. i used to be the same way. but then i got control over it and now i don't hardly get jealous ne more. now i hear, from my g/f, that i just dint care! there is no happy ending. so enjoy the jealousy while u can cause it will stop and then u will be wondering if he still cares.
2007-09-21 10:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by john m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a guy thing. They feel that other guy friends are 'rivals' to him, and wants to be the only guy you're friendly to.
Try telling him that they are just your friends.
Why don't you tell him how much you love him?
Hope this helps.
Kymee
2007-09-21 10:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg tlak to him about it if he doesnt change then sry but i htink u should break up with him half the world is populated with guys and if u cant even tlak to them in fear of ur bf thats stupid and not worth it
2007-09-21 10:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dude has jealousy issues ~ plain & simple
what are you doing with such a short tempered small minded guy anyway?
2007-09-21 10:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by babybeefcake@att.net 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
becuz he dont think that u love him more than he does. so he though that u might leave him. being jealous is selfish but not jealous is not love
2007-09-21 10:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by Aznbadboy783 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes insecure! alot of times this turns into him abusing you eventually and he sounds a little unstable anyhow.
2007-09-21 10:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow maybe he should get some counseling over his jealousy..i was in an abusive relationship..and thats how it all started
2007-09-21 10:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♫♥♪♬♥♪Try Me♫♥♪♫♥♪♬ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's more of a "masculine" thing
when a guy's dating you he wants himself to be the only guy in your life and considers other "guy friends" as threats
2007-09-21 10:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by a 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋