how do i make her feel better about it?
i know i could use to loose some weight, i just had a baby 3 mnths ago too, and im in the process of it too.
i know it hurts her to hear someone say something mean about someone she loves and she probably feels embarrassed too.
Any advice?
2007-09-21 09:51:41 · 17 answers · asked by diana g 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
my daughter is 7.
2007-09-21 09:52:22 · update #1
You tell your daughter "well he's right, but mommy is a little chubby because she just had a baby." (be funny about it!) She can use that when someone says it to her again. "My mommy just had a baby." Maybe even bring the baby to class to show them. Kids make fun of what they don't understand. You can make them understand. I think kids need more experiences like this, really.
2007-09-21 18:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Despite all your loving and caring attention a lot of kids just love Nana's house so much because it's so much fun for them. Don't be hurt by her behaviour, she loves you but also loves her nana dearly which is a good thing. My 5 yr old son will happily spend lots of time at my parents' house without me there, my mother and father treat him differently than I do, they are less on the discipline and more on the treats and attention and he loves that! I don't think your daughter would rather be there than with you and you're obviously doing a great job at spending plenty of time with her, she's still very young and has an attachment to her nana which is natural and a good thing for all the family. As she gets a bit older the 'attachment syndrome' will decrease.
2016-05-20 03:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that regardless of how you look you have a heart of gold and love and that this is why she needs to be careful what she says to and about other people... Go through a magazine in your house with your daughter and show her something wrong with each of the models in it and show her that they are still beautiful with their faults... Then pick up the family picture album and do the same thing, except this time make her say one reason why she also loves that person... Once you are finished ask her if she loves anyone in the photo album any less for their faults... This will give her a sense of how everyone is different and how hurtful it is to say things about people... Remind her again that she should never say those things about people because of how much it hurts and that you can say something mean about everyone in the world but you still care about them as people.
2007-09-21 12:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have just personally laughed it off. She would immediately see that it didn't matter what the kid said and that it didn't bother you. If she's still upset, talk to her about how you're losing weight from the baby and that it's normal to weigh more after the baby. Make sure she knows it doesn't bother you, and that the other kid was just rude- nothing more. Don't make too big a deal out of it.
Or you could always equip your daughter w/some catchy comebacks. :)
2007-09-21 14:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's great that she loves you so much! Just tell her that when women have babies it takes a while to slim down and that the kid just was telling the truth. Let her know not to be and tell other kids that their parent's are fat, etc. but that it's okay and it doesn't really matter what other people think of you as long as you really know who you are inside.
2007-09-21 11:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do DO NOT tell her you are trying to lose weight - that is not the issue! and truly, I think maybe it bothered her because it bothers you - you may have made an unconscious mention of it at home that you still felt fat - try not to mention weight in front of the kids
i think you should tell her that you love her very much, and always will, and then give her some tools to surviving the schoolyard - some well placed comments to share with the little pest
and then tell her at least you are much smarter than her mother - who never taught her how to act :)
2007-09-23 16:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by SA38 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you get offended along with her then you just showed her that being fat is ugly ..... it is up to you to tell her that you just had a baby and that is part of it, but you are going to work out very soon so can loose some weight, but most of it, you have to tell her that being fat or not should matter because you are still her mother and that you love her very much.
2007-09-24 14:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell her that there will always be people in your life that will say mean things. You also tell her that when you have a baby it takes a while to get back into your old clothes and the other child didn't know that, it is no big deal, it is just what happens when you have a baby. (That is what I would say)
2007-09-21 10:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by nanners454 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would keep it simple and just let her know that how she feels about you is what is important not what someone else may say that is just trying to upset her . Let her know that it's what's inside is what counts . If she was embarrassed it would only be because she allowed this kid to upset her it wouldn't be about your size as you know she loves you .
2007-09-21 11:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that there are ignorant, simple-minded, and uninformed people out there who like making insults toward their classmates' family members and to ignore those students who are talking trash. Those people are just being mean. Both of you should go out for ice cream as well.
2007-09-21 11:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by Zack H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋