My best friend and me have been friends since we were kids. Then just a few weeks ago she starts dating this guy. This guy hates me, but doesn't show it around her? Am I wrong for telling her that she should dump him.
BTW: He hates black people and I'm half and half. My best friend is white and the boy is white.
2007-09-21 09:48:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Also, I want to let you know that she knows he hates black people, but she says that he doesn't hate me.
2007-09-22 11:03:32 · update #1
You need to get proof first. She will resent you for accusing him of this if she really likes him... especially since he doesn't act this way in front of her. My suggestion, tape record him. Keep the recorder somewhere close to you. Get crafty with it -- it needs to records him being mean to you. Once you have the proof, bring up the issue to her, if you feel comfortable enough, do it in front of him. If not, that's okay - but if she tries to say you are probably imagining it, or if he denies it, pull out your proof.
Just be aware - not all friendships will last forever. People split up and go their separate ways all the time. It's hard and it hurts, but it is a part of getting older.
2007-09-21 09:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Zana-Di Girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i think since you grew up together you could tell her she should be a very good friend to you she will eventually see it and it will make her think twice about seeing him much more. its not good when the person hates someone cause of skin color. imean hey we're God's kids all of us. take care.
2007-09-25 14:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your place to tell her to dump him.It's her life.When he's around leave,don't be around him.Your friends will get the picture and with any luck throw is nasty a-- to the curb.
2007-09-28 11:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her what you just wrote here. he's prejudiced and if she wants to be in your life any longer, she needs to eradicate him from hers.
remind her this is not you being selfish, but her not being a friend. friends don't have to agree with everything, but they are not supposed to surround themselves with people who seek to destroy the friendship, and let it be known that this is what he's doing.
2007-09-21 09:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by steve-o! (the genius) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should not do that.If u feel she is very happy with him allow her to be with him.Is she fine with you then u can also be fine with her.If there is any problem with u and ur bestie relation then you try to work out with her.Again if she is forcably dating that guy then u can tell her even u didnt find good.
We shouldd always try to make up relationships not break them up.
2007-09-21 09:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by ashni 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Face her friend Face to Face make him tell to inform her himself that he hates you, (I also think he shouldn't hate black people!?)
2007-09-29 06:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by Shady Hazem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart. It is not wrong to to tell what you think. Talk to your friend away from him and comfront her on what is going on
2007-09-29 09:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should confront her but not just force her to dump him. talk to her & ask her if she cant talk to him & make iht alll bettah. she mite really lyke him. so try to become friends with him.
2007-09-21 09:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by MiSSY M. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In Christ we are all the same.Study Christianity.
2007-09-29 09:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how he is when she isn't there.
2007-09-21 09:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋