ok well ive been dating this guy for almost 2 years, we love each other and stuff but right now ive had to move for educational reasons to another city ( 7 hour drive) we been having trouble dealing wit the long distance. Im ok with things but he not. He doesnt like the fact that im out n meeting new ppl and stuff. I talk to him alot ( couple of hours a day) but i chill wit people as well. But anyways so he just told me that he doesnt want me to wear these jeans i have cuz they are too tight and that i can only wear thm when im out with him. The pants r tight but not hoe-ish tight. They jus make my ass look good and he thinks that guys r gonna look n stuff n he doesnt like it . I dun think its right for him to tell me what to wear but at the same time im trying to be fair . i dont dress skanky at all i jus wear fitted clothing and the fact that my body is curvy sorta makes guys look. I always dressed like that tho...
2007-09-21 09:44:08 · 12 answers · asked by moooona1987 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's ok too wear clothes that you feel comfortable and makes you look good. because looks are important. well he is conservative about you. afraid to lose you, and thinks you will leave him for another guy. he thinks your looks will attract some other guy who is better than him and you might fall for for another guy. so tell him to be more free, because he doesn't control you or own you.
2007-09-21 09:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to curb this guy. NO ONE has the right to tell you what you can and cannot wear. I used to have a BF who always wanted me to wear sweats and tees and no jewelery or makeup cuz he was afraid that other men would look at me, but now I dress how I want to dress and no one tells me anything but how good I look!!! I love being a woman and all the great ways we can dress ourselves up to look and feel sexy, and he has no right to prevent you from looking and feeling good. If he is confident in your relationship, he will be proud that his woman is drawing stares, and hold his head higher because you're his, and you're fine! Be proud to be a woman and don't let this guy hold you back, there are plenty of men who like their women to look good, and you should find one of those!! Good luck!!
2007-09-21 16:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldn't be telling you what to wear, but you have to come to some sort of compromise. Look at it from his point of view, he's your man and he most likely loves you. He knows what guys think and what they feel about when a woman wears a certain piece of clothing that shows off their body. You shouldn't stop wearing the jeans, just come to some sort of balance.
2007-09-21 16:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Chock Lesnar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to meet new people and make new friends in a new environment. Your boyfriend is insecure about the change and you'll just have to keep reassuring him. He has no right to dictate what you wear. Since he's 7 hours away, he also doesn't have to know.
2007-09-21 16:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel im a guy an a very jeolous one i even envy guys talkin to my girlfriend n all its just in my blod i cant help it i even tell my normal freinds ( girl ) to do this n not that but at the same time i think he cand command u to not wear n obligate u its just not right eventually it depends on u cuz u know him on real so u better call this one may be he has a good heart n he cant help himself cuz he loves u but still that does not give him the right
2007-09-21 16:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Albert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship where you are seperated is hard. He's trying to deal with the unknown - which for a guy - isn't easy. Why? Cause we know what other guys are thinking.
But - to answer your question - stand your ground. Make sure he knows how you feel. Don't hint at it - TELL HIM. Make sure he knows that he is the one that you care about. But also tell him to trust you. If he cares about you that much - he will.
2007-09-21 16:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo man just insecure and scared. He know that now since he gon it is easier to lose you. Another man could easily move in on ya and he can't do a damn thang bout it. That is probably he tripping.
2007-09-21 16:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by shawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wear whatever you want, how would he know anyways. If he is this controlling now, imagine how he'll be later on. Might be best to just break up with him now
2007-09-21 16:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by boredatwork 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess he just doesnt trust you, please, i ask you, dont be submissive to his commands. youre seven hours away doing things for your own life, if making friends and having a study group helps you out in the long run, then just do it, be independent. sounds like hes holding you back, and that is not recommended
2007-09-21 17:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by ceesteris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i will need to see some photos to see if these clothes are skanky or not
2007-09-21 16:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jon G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋