I'm a working mom and my husband wants to be a stay at home dad. Our daghter is still and infant and my job has the benifits and most the money.
2007-09-21 09:29:24 · 15 answers · asked by Connie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It sounds like you have an ideal situation - you are a working mom by your own definition, and you have a daddy who'd like to stay home and look after your baby.
There is no greater caregiver for a baby or child than a person who truly wants to do it ... however...
I am concerned that you are asking on here - what are you worried about? I see it as one of a few things ...
1. You are also a bit of a control freak - which is fine, but if he does become a stay at home dad, it's important that you allow him to do it his way, which won't always be the same as your way
2. You think he many not be good enough in some way - see above
3. You feel guilty that he wants to do something that you don't - Don't ! The world needs working moms, stay at home moms, working dads and stay at home dads - your baby is lucky to have two parents who want different things and so who are not both fighting to do the same thing.
2007-09-21 09:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Louisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the way the court is set up. The hard thing with this is that you cant have a different law for everybody, so in order to make the court run more smoothly they have to generalize and run by a standard guideline. In this case women as a whole tend to be the care givers, so the court sides with them in order to get to the next case. Then if the dad wants custody he has the option of going through other courts where they will acutally listen to a case. The real think I would like to point out to a lot of people is this: Notice how despite the fact that these couples made a joint decision to have the man embrace the female role it ended up failing because the woman didnt like the situation. It goes to show that you cant fight nature, and biology and nature. Genderoles have been created through thousands of years and a few decades of open-mindedness will not fix it. On the surface these couples were open, but deep down the women became unattracted to the femininity of these men. You cant fight nature and expect to win.
2016-05-20 03:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Daddies make great stay at home parents. Children these days don't get enough time with their fathers anyway, and this would be a great way for them to bond. Fathers sometimes feel left out of their childrens lives b/c children naturally have a mother/child bond with their mothers. Your daughter will definitely benefit from your husband staying home. You're lucky you have a good husband who is so attentive to your childs needs and is willing to be a "stay at home dad".
2007-09-21 10:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think there are days that my husband should do my job (staying at home) to better appreciate all that it entails.
As long as he and you agree that its' the best decision (you aren't afraid that he'll be lazy) I see no reason a dad can't do a mom's job.
To suggest otherwise isn't sexist but it is a little degrading to poor dad.
2007-09-21 09:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Katie C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the dad,i was and still am a stay at home dad,i think my kids turned out super,but i am sure there are some that suck,as well as some moms do at raising their kids
2007-09-21 09:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by phil 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be one, and my boys would rather have me at home than their Mom (she is strict with them). Well I guess its because we always play rough games and all boys games which moms can't give, and it gives my boys a lot more confidence I guess since me being their Dad is still a kid at heart (and mind).
2007-09-21 09:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, it does not have to do with your sex, it has to do with being a committed parent. Does he realize all the other work that goes along with being the one at home?
If he is up for it go for it!!!
2007-09-21 10:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at her age it would be better for you to be with her. A child needs her mother. However as long as you spend time with her when home I think it will be OK. If the benefits are worth it I say go for it.
2007-09-21 09:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by ....... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you can both agree on it and work a plan out like SAHM and working dads do, why not???
2007-09-21 10:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by deblord2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya I think it is a good idea and parenting classes would not hurt either if he gets confused.
2007-09-21 20:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by ben t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋