Should I tell her that i slept with her son?

Question

my boss and I are really close. so i can tell her anything, well almost anything. but it turns out that i met her son and we liked each other. we went out and we slept together, for some reason i doubt she'll approve of it. its not serious between me and him we just go out whenever we have some time, i DO have a bf though and she knows about it and he knows too. the thing about it is that I feel really guilty keeping it from her. i just want to tell her because she trusts me a lot and i dont want her to think bad of me if she finds out some other way. so my question is, should i tell her? or should i just keep this as a secret? thanks!

wow a lot of people talking ****! i just wanted advice on this subject not on how to live my life! which by the way i'm sure all the one's talking out of their *** have something they aren't proud of themselves! that's how life is, you are just all bitter ******* people! for those who actually answered thanks!

Answer 1

first of all, it's not a good idea to be "buddy buddy" with your boss. at some point, another employee may accuse you/her about favoritism or maybe that you're providing sexual favors in exchange for money/less work/whatever. it's ok to be friendly, but telling your boss everything is overstepping the line.

with this is mind, it is none of your boss's business what you did with her son. i'm assuming you were both consenting adults in this situation..

Answer 2

You feel guilty not because you're cheating her, but because you're cheating your bf. You think that she's going to say it's no big deal, or maybe you're wishing she will, so that your actions are justified. If she likes you, she shouldn't have a problem with you dating her son. What she'll have a problem with is the fact that you're a cheater, and once a cheater, always a cheater. No mother wants that for her son. So move on...Don't tell her or you'll risk your job and your relationship. Just keep in mind that when you tell her personal business, you're telling your boss not your friends and at the end of the day business is business. She can still fire you. Watch yourself.

Answer 3

im am this users sister answering this cuz i have no account of my own yet but want to answe ur question or give u help

first of all u have to think about do u want ur job more or ur friendship because there is a reason why its a bad thing to have a conflict of interest when it comes to combining personal life with professional life

if u tell ur boss about what happen things will not be so good because she might not want to talk to u anymore or be very strict into consequences of loosing ur job

if u don't tell her about if of course as u said u will have this guilt of not telling but u did get urself into it

would u rather have this guilt or have a hard time at work because if u have done this with her son and it was not out of love at least then it not going to be a good reaction

Answer 4

It's a lose-lose situation- if you tell her- you will not look any better than if she finds out about it from anybody else. I'm a mom of two boys... so, if I was your boss- I certainly wouldn't be happy about your secret either ways. This is one of those mistakes that you pay for with a bad conscience... telling her might help you feel less guilty, but I don't think it will help you keep anything else. If she ever confronts you, then don't lie about it... but for now enjoy working for her- be professional... don't let your bad choices jeopardize your performance at work.
Good luck.

Answer 5

This boss of yours sounds like a really nice person. And your feeling guilty about the whole thing. So wouldn't it be so much better to just the thing off your chest and tell your boss. Even though your boss might be upset a little bit at first she's gotta respect u for your honesty.

Answer 6

Well what she doesnt know wont hurt he but if she finds out some other way shell be madder at you than she would have been if you did tell her! Go up to her and say theres something that I need to tell you but I dont know how you'll take this and then tell her I mean sure shell be mad at you for a while but shell soon realize that your a stand-up person and that your trustworthy!
Hope everything works out!

Answer 7

You want to tell her because she trusts you, but telling her will make her NOT trust you, because she may like you a great deal, but you're talking about her SON here! No doubt she knows you already have a boyfriend, and she's going to interpret your involvement with her son as frivilous (and rightly so). So, what you're feeling is an ethical dilemma, and a compulsion to tell her something you think you're obliged to tell her because of your existing relationship with her. You're not.....you're no more obligated to tell her about any aspect of your sexual life than you are obligated to tell me. You ARE obligated to tell her about anything job related in a generously forthcoming manner...see the difference? Assuming her son is of legal age for consent, he is similarly under no obligation to tell his mother anything either...everyone has an inherent right to privacy on such issues. I'm not recommending being sneaky, nor am I making this recommendation lightly. I have a grown daughter and I know there are things I am better off not knowing, largely because I would worry unnecessarily, and also because it's none of my business. It's not a matter of secrecy; it's a matter of privacy...there's a slight, but fundamental difference.

Answer 8

You are in a pickle. The lesson to learn from this is never involve work and pleasure, it never works out.
If she trusts you and you knew she probably wouldn't approve of you sleeping with her son, she will have every right to feel hurt and betrayed. It may cost you your job and or your friendship with her.
If there is a real likelihood that she will find out, then it should come from you. If there isn't a significant chance of her finding it out, keep it to yourself.
If you aren't serious about him and not in love with him, why are you risking a friendship and your job. Consider cutting it off.

Answer 9

Oh my god, this is horribly dazzling! properly, Aaron will maximum in all probability save it to himself till they get in yet another combat, at which factor the reality will pop out, and probable in front of alternative people who in basic terms might tip off the law enforcement officials. Statutory isn't only for pedophiles you already know, and oral nonetheless counts. in case you tell your son, Aaron is a lifeless guy for particular, and your husband will probable divorce you and take the infants. So, you have 2 options. a million: pass your loved ones out of state as quickly as you are able to, and pass each of how with Aaron to be sure he keeps his mouth close once you depart, or 2: kill Aaron, and make it look like an accident. I desire there become yet otherwise, yet d*mn, you screwed up royal! superb of success!

Answer 10

do u run around telling all mothers that u slept with thier son, thats a lil odd also is the son a lil mommas boy who doesnt make his own decisions and cant think for himself and you took advantage of him, if not then keep ur private life private