or maybe it's my pill. i feel VERY lonly. like i have no friends. i have friends i just feel like they are all too busy and have no interest in talking to me. i'm not close to anyone. i have a large family, but everybody's busy. AND, i'm married and i have 2 children. My husband is not my friend. he cares only about himself. doesn't talk to me and refuses to have sex with, and...i'm pretty. i don't know, if my life really sucks, or do i just think it does. i feel like i have nothing exciting in my life...my kids! they are very important to me. but my husband is so into himself and his looks, and his everything, i think he's just plotting to leave me and take them from me. see what mean? this is how i think all the time. i could change my thinking...however then i feel like i'm just in denial the truth. FAKE.The only people who love and care about me is my baby who can't talk to me, and my parents who are very old and don't need to deal with my problems. i am truly UNHAPPY.
2007-09-21 08:41:33 · 9 answers · asked by yowhatup? 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hold up here. WHAT pill? Birth control? Antidepressant? What kind of pill are you on? Can't tell you if depression is a side effect since I don't know what medication.
So, my advice would be if this is birth control----stop taking it! Use a condom until you find another form of BC that doesn't make you feel like this.
I also believe there is a lot more going on that just a side effect from a pill. I believe you would have depression pill or no pill. So you need to get yourself a therapist. Don't say you can't---anyone can. If you won't get a therapist-----then you really LIKE feeling like this. Maybe you like the "poor-poor-pitifull-me" thing? Are you getting sympathy from friends and family? Well, quit it. Everyone will get tired of that, then you'll add that to your list of misery.
2007-09-21 08:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, is feeling sorry for yourself helping matters ? It seems to be feeding the paranoia. Your depression sounds somewhat situational. If your husband is truly that way, why not plan your exit ? Just leave. I did it. You have nothing exciting in your life, that is noone's fault but yours. Do something about it !!! The attitude of "noone cares about me " just reeks of self pity. As much as it hurts to hear, you cannot always be at the center of it all. You have 2 beautiful kids that would be lost without your love and guidance.You have family.Alot of people don't. It's hard to be a great mom when you are so consumed with self created misery or depression. Only you can change this. Take some action. If you don't have an education, start going to school now. It will get you out of your house for awhile, give you some much needed adult conversation and also a means to care for yourself if your marriage dissolves. MAybe you need to start being grateful for what you do have instead of what you feel is missing because something will always be missing. if you can't learn to reset your way of thinking to be more positive, you can always convince yourself it's bad . Believe me, I have been at the bottom before and I have been TOTALLY alone.Read some of my other answers about MY life. I will never give someone the power to make me miserable . You can change this.
2007-09-21 08:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow you have way too much on your plate right now. You need to get to your Dr. By your pill I'm assuming birth control?
Tell your Dr how you are feelingg You need an anti-depressant big time. Your husband needs to get over himself no one is that good. He needs to be helping you through this My husband has helped me through more than I could say during depression and anxiety, anger you name it we have been best friends for 25 years. Have you told your hubby how you r feelin? He should have noticed by now. Don't be in denial what you have is depression nothing to be ashamed of , Please see your Dr. /ASAP so you and your kids don't have to suffer anymore you will feel better and get some Therapy so you can let out all of your issues with the husband becks it sounds like it. Good luck hun
2007-09-21 08:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see your doc, he may take you off the pill or try therapy or both, and maybe some antidepressants. he might refer you to a therapist. just keep an open mind and don't give up. when i was depressed, i hated my husband, would think all sorts of crazy thoughts about him, and made things worse. i got help and we're doing good now, and i feel soooo much better.
then, as time goes on, you will probably see for sure if you want to be with your husband or if there is any way to work out the problems, or if it is from the depression. my husband came to a few sesions with me to my therapist which helped lots. hang in there!!!
2007-09-21 08:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by kittyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand how you feel. you're NOT alone.. and honestly, I'm happy to some degree you're sharing this, instead of bottling it up.
I know I have been on the depressed path for a WHILE.. and all I know is what I did when I was feeling better.
I confessed my sins! I didn't even realize how much I was withholding from everyone. Who cares what you've done... you're a drunk, you've cheated, you've stolen something, lied to people, killed someone, being a jerk to everyone or being arrogant, really anti-social, whatever! Confess it, write it down.
I went to the Church of Scientology and found doing an Ethics program helped me. Also, getting auditing made me understand my intentions, and helped me to become more responsible.
Decide not to be a victim.
2007-09-21 08:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by Gina D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've hit the nail on the head, so to speak. Depression can cause all of the feelings and thoughts you are having. You need an evaluation for depression, which you can get by calling a local mental health organization, or a hospital or doctor. I wouldn't wait any longer...children need a mom who is there for them. And you deserve a happy life, in spite of how your husband behaves. Good luck.
2007-09-21 08:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by NMFlamingo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. You should talk to a therapist. This is not something that can be fixed over the Internet. You need to spend more time with other humans, not on the computer.
2. Try to take the baby to places where you can socialize with other parents and make friends with them. "Mommy and Me" classes, playgrounds, even the library.
3. To clarify, is your husband willing to have sex with other women and just not with you or is he unwiling to have sex with anyone? In the later case, he may actual have a medical problem that is keeping him from having sex and that is so embarssing that he is pretending to be unwilling to avoid telling you when he very much wants to have sex with you. In the former case (adultery), your real problem may be being jealous of whoever he is willing to have sex with.
2007-09-21 08:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by StephenWeinstein 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, being unhappy and suffering depression are not the same things. Sounds like you are just not happy in your marriage. Think about going to see a marriage counselor with your husband.
2007-09-21 09:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way about your hubby, I would suggest beating him to the punch and get a lawyer and divorce the jerk. Trust your inner feelings, they are usually correct.
2007-09-21 08:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋