I would certainly not appreciate any responses of "move on" or anything of that sort. My ex treated me like crap when we were together. Now that he's in a new relationship he said that he's learned from a lot of his mistakes with me since I talked about it a lot after we broke up and has matured a lot, treating her better. Did he just not care when we were together? Or was relationship stuff quite new to him? He's in his early 20's by the way....
2007-09-21 08:40:55 · 18 answers · asked by g 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Though I know it probably hurts - you probably helped make it better for the next one. I don't think that he didn't care...maybe just didn't know how to treat a lady? If he admits to learning from you then take it as a compliment and be happy for him. He did care....
2007-09-21 08:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kim B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... see it's not that he didn't care about you when he was with you... it's that he learned from all the mistakes that happened in the relationship when you two where together, and that's why he's treating his new gf better... you learn from your mistakes, and don't take it the wrong way, i'm not saying that you where a mistake, what i mean is there where mistakes from both parties when you where together, and he learned from them. Alot of people are going to tell you to move on, why? Because he did. Why should you keep wondering about him and making your life miserable for the moment over a guy that moved on and has another girlfriend? You holding on to something that is not there isn't going to change anything. Just back off, don't pay him any attention, go on dates, hang out w/ friends, do whatever you have to do to keep your mind occupied. You didn't do anything wrong, and the passed is the passed, nothing will change that. I'm sorry you're sad, and I truly hope everything works out for you...
2007-09-21 15:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by N3N@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've experienced a lot of the same thing from one of my ex and no I dont think that he didn't care about you ((I'm not him so I cant be certain)) but I think that a lot of the time it's a Live and Learn type of situation. i mean he probably didn't know how to treat a girl when he was with you so u were like his "tester" relationship, which sucks for you, but then he got all the bad stuff out of the way and you taught him how to be a better boyfriend. It kind of sucks that you had to put up with his **** and now the other girl is sittin pretty with him acting nice. But now you know yourself for the next relationship that you're going to be in...Dont date someone who hasn't had enough dating experience. That way you can avoid this happening again. But no I just think he was young and didn't know what to do and now that he lost you because of it he knows that he needs to change to keep a girl.
2007-09-21 15:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by ..::MaMaMiA::.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in different situations, a guy can change based on different girlfriends and the effect they have on them. He may have cared but was too young and stupid to understand what he was doing. Some women/men have the ability to help change views on things when they are in a relationship. So if you were meant to be, then he will come around after he knows he messed up and ask you back, but sometimes they learn and grow and move on with the person they are with.
2007-09-21 16:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by ~just.me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it was because he was young and careless, he didn't know any better! He just LEARNED from you, it wasn't like he didn't care. I DO say move on as a matter of fact because he's with someone else now and he seems to care about her. I'm glad he's learned, but I still think that you should go your separate ways now that he's moved on also. I honestly think he did care, but was foolish and young and didn't know any better and he might have had some problems with you and didn't know how to solve them and resolved to treat you like crap. So anyway, what you do is up to you, but that's just what I say, you don't have to listen to me:P Good luck!
2007-09-21 15:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by UniversalGalaxy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kinda in the same situation except for my ex cheated on me and abused me physically...he told me that he loved me all the time..and everytime he would mess up i would take him back. My ex was 25. I truly think he just didn't care. He obviously did not care because he moved on so quick. I don't think age has anything to do with with men are dogs and they do not have feelings. I've been hurt badly and i'm trying to move on..but it is very hard..
2007-09-21 16:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by Veronicka G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what I've learned in my past relationships is that when someone really want to be with you, they are going to put forth every effort to make you happy
it could just be that he continued to treat you bad because he had no long term plans that involved you
it's nothing to feel bad over- it happens all the time
now you know better than to try to wait for things to get better and you won't let the next guy get away with it
letting someone mistreat you will never pay off- i promise you
2007-09-21 15:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by wonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he just didnt know what to do in a relationship. Look at it this way...You were able to teach him. I know it doesnt seem all that great because you were hurt in the relatioship but he also taught you what you will not put up with in future relationships.... You both learn off of eachother.
2007-09-21 15:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by kakeydec 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably did care, but was too immature or inexperienced to know how to treat you right. Now that he has grown up a bit and learned from experience, he now knows how to treat his new lady better.
2007-09-21 15:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just hearing his version...hers may be totally different! It is quite possible that the 2 of you were not right for one another. You'll find the one that is right for you and he will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
2007-09-21 15:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by sharon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋