so i've found the right guy but...?

Question

We both have to move to differnet locations. he must move to baltimore and i have a choice between DC and new york. i had originally intended to move to new york, but i visited DC a month ago and loved it. I've never been to NY, so I don't know if I'd truly love living there. He'll be working in DC. Now, I think this guy is the one and I don't want to let him go...but I'm also a very independent person and moving to DC in order to see more of him seems like a not so wise thing to do. we're really good friends now and I think one of the reasons why we haven't coupled is b/c we're moving and he doesn't want to do the long distance thing. Advice please.

Answer 1

Right guy is a flaw'd term, don't confuse that mind. Realize it isn't about that, its about weather or not you can CREATE anything with this guy, a good starts an honest relationship which is what you've got (i guess, not there 24/7) but for this to continue you most have another purpose in mind. Think about this your both career odinatied, and I'm more then sure both of you would love not to feel lonely and to have someone you can turn to once and awhile. Atleast to talk about how making a family at a time like this wouldn't work but getting some compassion and good lovin is a good alternative. So keep up correspondence as long as you both see the same page on this issue should be good fun. Outside of that, its just a matter of time before a ld relatoinship ends when the factors are confounded with two career odinated people. Careers actually make you amoral (yea who would of thought it, the only thing that changes that is if your married or taking care of your parents, in other words another selfish extention of our society) since the purpose is for you and you alone so life is going to get pretty lonely for you, and your going to give alot of heartache, unless you can make a honest relationship based on what I stated before.... if you doudt me just wait tell you get with all those other career odinated people out there and they don't give a crap about weather you make it or not. Realize that ambition is a two edge sword and this one might in the end cost you a life full of peace, for a life full of pursueing something you'll never have, namly happiness. Don't follow the sheep over the cliff just because you hear everyones enjoying it.... there not..... I say this because your lossing purpose and this relationship shows that, your so quick to throw him out because of inconvience.....