Why do people adopt?

Question

There are obviously more people who want babies than there are babies to go around.
Prospective and adoptive parents seem to be willing to go through so much, and spend so much money to raise a child that is NOT biologically related to them--why?
Why can't people just go on as nature intended, childless?
I truly don't understand.

Answer 1

I guess some people are just that DESPERATE to be parents. Perhaps they've bought into the social conditioning that it's what adults are supposed to do; raise babies. Maybe they are narrassitic and long for a little being to mold into their likeness...if they were infertile they are likely trying to recover a sense of wholeness or completeness they percieve was deneyed to them by their faulty reproductive organs.

The perception that adoption can cure infertility is unfortunatly quite prevelant. So many people will go through all kinds of un-natural labratory procedures and when it finally fails or they just give up on that - suddenly they are gung-ho about adopting. Why can't they admit this is a second choice and realize that they wanted their "own" baby, a baby wants his OWN mother and family as well. Perhaps adoptive parents are capable of loving someone else's child...but will the baby love them? Biology trumps legal documents everytime.
Babies don't care whose names are on a piece of paper, they want the woman who nurished, carried and grew him/her for 40 weeks.

Then there's the other catagory of adopters...the do-gooders.
Maybe they get off on the praise of the uninformed who assume it's a noble thing to raise some "crack whore's baby" The reality is the noble thing to do would be to support the mother and help her learn to parent her baby.

Answer 2

I guess you must be male. It's a mother thing! Most women want to be mothers. And if they can't, then they are willing and caring enough to give a child that does not have a home, or would be in a bad situation a home. That's great!

Most people want family. Someone to carry on the family name, someone that needs them, someone to love. A childless family who has love and security to give a child is a blessing.

If you don't understand, ask a couple of people who have adopted their reasons. Giving and getting love is most important to anyone.

Answer 3

Your kind of right. There aren't enough babies to go around but there are pleanty of children that need homes.
Secondly people adopt for lots of reasons. Some adopt because as you put it they can't have children. They really want a child so they adopt one that needs a home. The problem comes when people try to only adopt new borns. Then people adopt because they feel for lack of a better word sad for kids that need help. They usually get the older kids or teens that are in orphangaes or foster care. Yes the children are not yours biologically but you do love them and raise them as your own. Then there are others like my wife and I we have a biological child and we love her very much. For health reasons we are not having more children but we want at least one more child so we will be adopting to complete our family. Finally people adopt their family members. If a parents dies, or is unfit some family members will rather than just rasing the child they adopt them to make them feel like they are permant and have a home

Answer 4

This is the most IGNORANT statement that I have ever read. I have a lot to say on this matter, but you seem way too ignorant to even grasp anything anyone is saying.
FOR ALL YOU PEOPLE THAT ADOPT AND GO THROUGH THE LONG PROCESS.......I THINK YOU ARE GREAT PEOPLE WHO HAVE A LOT OF LOVE FOR A CHILD THAT EITHER COULDNT BE TAKEN CARE OF AT THE TIME, NOT WANTED, ABUSED, NEGLECTED....ETC. YOU ARE TRULY ANGELS!

Hopefully nature intended you to be childless.....

Answer 5

People chose to adopt for many of the same reasons that people have biological children, they want to be parents, and feel that they can provide a great life for their child. Those who have biological children don't have children just to pass on their genes.

Pregancy and childbirth is not always an easy thing either.
Many women have difficult pregnancies or complications at childbirth. Many women also go through years of fertility treatments which can be very expensive, and mentally and physically exhausting, and yet they feel it's worth going through all of that to become a family. I don't see why it's hard to understand why adoptive parents would be willing to go through a lot for a child as well.

While there are more prospective adoptive parents waiting to adopt a healthy newborn in the US, there are many babies who have already been born and relinquished waiting for families all over the world, that's why many parents choose international adoption. But even for those who do adopt domestically, it's not always a long drawn out process, and in the end I'm sure they feel, just like any parent, that it was well worth it.

Answer 6

For one some people can’t have natural children and still want to be parents. Some people want to give a child that needs a loving home, a home. There are people who have both adopted and biological children. I know a couple had two natural children and then decided to adopt, not because they couldn’t have more bio kids but because they wanted to adopt. Yeah adoption can be a roller coaster rider and can cost a lot, but so can couples who go through fertility treatments.

Why cant some people just get that biology is not everything? I guess some people are very narrow minded.

Answer 7

There maybe more people wanting babies than babies that are available to be adopted, but there are thousands of older children around the world who would like a "forever" family. Why should I not adopt a 4 year old who has been in foster care for years just because I cannot have a baby right now? Why not provide a loving set of parents to a child that has been bounced around the system for years? Why not provide the nurturing and therapy to a child who has not been given a fair chance at life? I fail to see what biology has to do with it at all.

Answer 8

i think of it relies upon on the context. The adoption become a 2d in time, whether it additionally has ongoing outcomes. once you're speaking in regards to the previous and the events surrounding how your toddler entered your loved ones, "have been observed" is quite suitable. whether, whilst speaking approximately your toddler's present certainty, i think of "are observed" is extra precise to the reality of the area, because of the fact this is not something that in basic terms ends whilst the paper is signed. Your toddler will constantly stay the certainty of a individual who's observed, so "are observed" is extra suitable in an ongoing context. Which to apply relies upon on which area you are attempting to place across on the time.

Answer 9

there are people out there that can't have kids who truly want one or two and they know there are kids out there without homes and parents. there are people who care about others and feel that these youngsters beed a good home and they have extra love to give. some have alot of money and time for kids which is great there are somany reasons and they are each good reasons and make someone happy in the long run. take care

Answer 10

There are NOT more people who want kids, than kids who need parents. There are about 500,000 kids in foster care at any given time, and about 150,000 are up for adoption.

We are adopting because we love children, and want to give them a good, loving home. We plan to adopt a set of siblings, which are typically the hardest to place. We want to give a set of children(2 or 3 hopefully, but as many as 4 would be great) and loving, caring, stable home that they've never had.

We also have 1 child, and are trying to concieve another. We don't have fertility problems(thank the FSM), we just feel the need to love and care for as many children as our finances allow. We're not going to have a lot of biolgical children, when there are so many children in this world who need loving parents already.

Frankly, if you don't understand the need/want/urge to adopt, and giving a child a home, then you probably won't be swayed by anyone's arguments. So, I'm probably just wasting my time typing out this answer.

Answer 11

It's a need, emotionally and mentally mostly. Couples that are not able to produce may have had always wanted their own children. Most of the time, couples get married in hopes to start a family and when time comes, they find out a painful truth. Most people in life, getting married and starting their own family is one of their long term goals. It is probably shattering to not be able to achieve something you've always dreamed about.

I personally want to adopt. My reason is that I want a family that consists of members that I can relate to and know how to help and love.

I came from a broken family and it hurt me to have gone so much when I could be doing so much better with a family that can love me and give me a better shot at life. I myself is broken and I want to adopt children that has been broken too in hopes that we can make each other whole. I know how it's like to be unwanted and I know there are children out there that needs someone to protect them and love them. Unlike my parents, I will never leave my children, adopted or otherwise.