Having a super small wedding in Vegas. Bride, Groom, and parents only. Is it wrong not to invite siblings,friends, co-workers and etc?
2007-09-21 05:45:37 · 47 answers · asked by csucdartgirl 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sibling ought to be invited, but don't feel the need to invite others if you don't want to.
2007-09-21 05:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by jsied96 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's more common now a days for people have to smaller weddings; however, I would expect your siblings to be invited (unless you have not spoken to them in years or you have grown apart). Your friends and co-workers should understand your wishes, but make sure you tell them it is nothing against them and to please not take it personally. Also, since they will not be invited to the wedding (whether it's because of money issues or whatever) you could always have a get-together at your house or what not to celebrate with everyone- that way they feel like a part of the wedding/celebration.
I'm planning on having a small wedding (about 50 people) but I will have a big celebration a few days before the wedding so everyone can be a part of it.
2007-09-21 05:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Madison 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when my good friend went to Vegas to get married, they told everyone it was largely because no one in the family really had the money to travel cross-country for a wedding - neither did they. Being the good, respectul, friend that I am I snuck up and surprised her (we lived about 6 hours away from LV). Well, I helped her plan it and I'd already decided to go, and the day before when she was crying beause i wouldn't be there, I told her not to worry. I'd be with her in spirit since I found her dress... After the wedding we went and had one drink, and i left them to their honeymoon.
I'd tell the siblings that you don't want to create a financial burden on them. I'd tell the co-workers, etc that you are eloping. Period. No need to explain you arent inviting people. If they want to give you a party or something, let them. (we did that at the office for my friend). If they are offended they aren't invited, tough taters.
Don't feel bad about not inviting people.
2007-09-21 10:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong.
I think that very small weddings . . . only bride, groom, and parents . . . are done much more frequently than most people realize. The wedding plans are arranged very quietly, so these siblings, friends, and coworkers you mention do not feel excluded. The fact that the marriage has taken place is then informally told to friends, relatives, coworkers after the ceremony or after the honeymoon . . . as the couple encounters these people in daily life.
If your siblings, friends or coworkers are feeling excluded . . . well, they are welcome to host any type of party or reception for you that they wish to host upon your return. I think the friends and family often tend to forget that part, LOL.
2007-09-22 02:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small weddings are more traditionally common. Don't look at the 1970s & 80s & 90s for examples; go back hundreds of years.
If you're not having a religious ceremony, you don't need to have an open wedding. Conversely, a religious ceremony may be open to the public congregation, but the reception is not.
2007-09-21 07:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your up comeing wedding! Its your wedding and you should have who you want at it. If you feel badly not inviting your siblings or friends, why not have a small party after the honeymoon. All in all it's your day and it's up to you who gets invited and who doesn't. I would talk to your siblings about it, tell them you want it just to be the parents and ask them to understand why. You would be suprised how understanding people can be. I hope that helps!
Kayla )o(
2007-09-21 06:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by Zaden W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok not to invite them to Vegas for a wedding but you should have a reception where there are invited. Not being there may upset some of them. I know my cousin did a vegas wedding and then had a small reception back home where we were invited. Its a chance for other people to welcome your spouse into the family
2007-09-29 04:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would invite at least my whole immediate family, so including siblings. But it's not bad form to not invite other extended family, friends or co-workers. But I would definitely invite your siblings - I'd be really insulted if I wasn't invited to my brother's wedding.
2007-09-21 05:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not inviting the siblings is the only part I'm questioning but the friends and co-workers certainly don't have to be invited.
2007-09-21 07:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what works for you. I don't want a big wedding either!
Have your small wedding in Vegas and then have a big party for your friends, co-workers, and other family members when you get home.
2007-09-21 05:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by SE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wedding was in Vegas! I think small is romantic and better! Besides Vegas is like a wedding and honeymoon in one. I would invite them. Nothing wrong with getting married, having fun, and sharing it with friends;-) Congratulations!
2007-09-21 05:54:37 · answer #11 · answered by gijeanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋