I am 51 and Greg turned 54 in July. We were happy I thought! He even proposed to me in May. Suddenly he went to work less and less.It got to the point I couldn't his possessiveness with me, so I'd stay gone all night @ family s place.I got home 1morning, got irritated with him;next I saw him shoot himself in the head! I'm so lost,confused.Worst of all i miss him.
2007-09-21 05:38:05 · 17 answers · asked by ttsdelite 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
yes definitely council with someone and not just anyone make sure their license is current and most of all you can trust them and feel comfortable. Iam sorry for your loss. If you believe in god don't be afraid to reach him because he is the only holding you together.
2007-09-21 05:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by *Ms. V.B * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss Lucy. It isn't your fault in any way, shape or form. Just because you, and no doubt countless other people, have talked about what Heaven would be like with someone who eventually committed suicide does not mean you had anything to do with his eventually doing it. Whenever someone we love and care about passes on, we all deal with guilt in some form. Some of us feel guilt that we didn't show the person how much we loved them. We regret words that were spoken and words that we left unspoken. Things that weren't done together. Some of us have guilt over knowing someone was having a hard time, but not doing more to get them the help they need. Sometimes, no matter how hard you do try to get the person help, the help doesn't help and then you feel guilt that maybe you didn't get the right kind of help for the person. Some times, no matter how much help or how good the help is, you still can't stop the person because they can't resolve their feelings of self loathing or utter desperation. You had absolutely no hand in his taking his life. You cared about him and showed him by being someone who would talk to and listen to him. It's going to take to work through your grief and guilt. If it gets to the point where you do nothing but think and stew over the guilt, find someone, a counselor, a trusted friend, a teacher, your doctor to talk to. I'm sorry for your loss and what you are going through.
2016-05-20 01:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of why you're having difficulty dealing with this is because you feel somewhat responsible, because now you know that you should have done something when he started behaving differently. You have to accept the fact that you can't go back and change anything, so you have to deal with what has happened.
I would suggest finding a suicide support group - for families and friends of those who have committed suicide. Not knowing your location I can't recommend where to look, but just try searching for 'suicide support group' online. You will likely find many people who feel as you do helping each other make it through each day.
2007-09-21 05:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mee 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. Words cannot even begin to ease the sorrow, but please know that your family and friends care about you. They are the best resource for love, companionship, and just confiding in. You may want to join a support group so you can meet people who lost loved ones to suicide. It might help you to not feel alone, and you will be able to express your thoughts and anguish. Remember that time heals all. If you're still having trouble, getting grief counseling might help. Look in your telephone book for referrals or services. I hope that whatever therapy you choose, it will help you. And again I'm deeply sorry. Time heals everything. It was never your fault.
2007-09-21 09:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by nobodyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate with you hon except my boyfriend didn't do it in front of me. Except he told me he loved me couldn't live without me and I'm the best thing that has happend to him and then when he took me home after spending 4 days with him he hung hi-self with his own shoe strings on Halloween night! It will be 2 years this Halloween and I still feel guilty and asking "what if" what if i would have just stayed one more day" in your case "what if" I wouldn't have left and stayed out till 1 am? This is all fresh and new for you, and you will continue having trouble sleeping, feeling guilty and more. But it will heal with time..it will always be in the back of your mind but one day it will be OK to live with and wont be as hard. Let me know if you need anything else.
2007-09-21 06:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by KayKay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is the most difficult lost to let go. You will have a lot of questions and never get an answer on this. Feelings of guilt .
You need someone who you can trust and understand you to help you to get over this lost .So that you can go on with your live. A counselor will help u in this .
Take care and i wish you the best
2007-09-21 06:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can only imagine how much you are feeling. That is such an intense moment to go through and very traumatic. I think all I can suggest is getting a counselor. They can help you get meds to help with the sleeping and to navigate through everything that went down. Im sorry for your loss and I hope you find someone who can help you figure this out.
2007-09-21 05:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be suffering prom post-traumatic stress disorder; what you described could certainly create it. I recommend that you see a psychiatrist; you may need to be on medication for awhile to help you cope with all the emotions you are feeling. If you happen to live in central Arkansas (USA), e-mail me and I'll send you the name, address, and phone # of a good shrink in Little Rock.
2007-09-21 05:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by Skepticat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should look into talking to a counselor or therapist. They can help you work through your emotions. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-09-21 05:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by nene111782 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That's really sad.
But try to think of other things, no matter how hard it is. Read a book or something if you go to bed.
And you should see a psychologist , those people can really help you.
2007-09-21 05:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋