I have just received an e-mail which made me really embarrassed .
Hi...!! Vy (my name) how are you.? You know vy im very.. very sad... :( Becouse my Little Sister have died last September 19, 2007, That's why im soo sad my sister the one the best gift have sent to me, i love Here soo much, I care here soo much...She died in a sickness could Agreesive Pnomonia here age is 9 years old i was there ween she died.. it hard for me to recover these kind of test from God. Im also worried about my parents they can't take it what happened .Please Help me..! I don't know what to do..!I miss here very much .Thank You..
I really dont know what to do how I should reply his email . This is a boy I got on net , we havent talked together quite long , I dont know why he sent it to me . Anyway , it is really really bad . I still dont know what I should write now . Add to this , I am not good at consoling someone either . Please any one could offer me something . My english is not really good . thx
2007-09-21 05:34:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Languages
Go by what your gut tells you, but it doesn't sound like a scam to me. You DO know him, at least a little, right?
Tell him that you're so very sorry about his sister. No words can ease his pain, but that you'll pray for her, and also for him and his family to find the strength to get through this terrible time. (But do not say you'll pray for them unless you mean it; if that's not your way, don't say that.)
Accept that he's in terrible emotional pain. He's going through one of the most painful things anyone can experience, that an innocent child should die so young. Tell him that, little by little, he'll find the strength to deal with it. He'll find strength he didn't know he had. And so will his parents.
From experience, I can tell you that one thing people do NOT want to hear at times like this is that it's God's will. Don't make God his enemy. It doesn't help one tiny bit.
Write him every couple of days just to see how he's doing. It's only been two days, so his pain must be raw. Sympathize, but *do not pretend* to know how he feels (unless, of course, you have been through it yourself).
In a month or so, if you're still in touch with him, tell him something like, "Remember the love and joy his sister gave you. Your pain is so great only because your love for her was that great."
*** BUT! Watch out for yourself. If he asks for your phone number or address so he can talk to you, do NOT NOT NOT give it to him. He may be sincere, but don't take any chances. ***
2007-09-21 09:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Diana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know this boy, why do you think he would send this to you? Doesn't he have friends where he lives? Haven't you thought this might be a joke? Everything is possible on the Internet.
I don't want to sound nasty, but many people play jokes and lie on the Internet.There's nothing you can do to help him. He has a family, parents, and probably many other relatives and friends.
If you really want to reply, I'd just say "I'm very sorry for your loss".. or something like that. Nothing else.
Just think: if it's true, nothing you say will comfort him. You're a stranger to him!!. If it's not true, he and his friends will be laughing their head off at you.
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2007-09-21 05:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i became into taught as a boy to not say something if i could not be high quality. So while i'm indignant, I usually am silent by using temper i'm in. it is terrific to not say something if i can not be high quality.
2016-12-17 06:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he send it to you,because probably he thought that you can give him advise,or because he had no one else to talk to.you can tell him,that your very sad about what happened.you can tell him,that sometimes,life is hard,but we must go on.it's so sad when a child dies,but it's also sad when you see people mourning for the rest of their life.
you can also tell him,that he must keep his sister in his mind,and that he shouldn't be sad,because his sister is very well now,and that she wouldn't want him to be sad.
you must also remind him,that tears can not bring back those who are dead,because they will live forever through our memories.tell him,that he must forget the last hours of his sister,because this brings lots of pain(i know it very well...)and that he should care for his happiness,because his sister is already happy...
that's all i can think...if you need something else,feel free to contact me...
and something else:think it very well first if you will answer to him or not...he's a stranger to you...do what you think it would be better...
2007-09-21 05:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by D.B.O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be a number of many things*like a virus waiting for you to open*or it could be true?You really need to just step away from things like this OK*You don't know what this could be-or how it could harm your computer
2007-09-21 09:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by Smooches just give me some 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like someone is trying to scam you.
Just trash this e-mail and forget it.
I get lots of "sob letters" like this all the time
and I just ignore them.
2007-09-21 08:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by steiner1745 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a test from God . God loves you and your sister. her body was week and she is in haven now and she is haveing a good time and you are sad you should be glad for her. but I know it is hard. but she want you to be happy not sad.
2007-09-21 05:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by esther9364622 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better be tactful on this one. as the others may have said, it might be a scam...but again it might be for real...
just offer your condolence and thats it.
no need to say anything (e-mail) to him, specially since you do not know him.
good luck and be careful...
2007-09-21 05:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by John M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you embarassed don't respond. If something someone says or does gives you an 'icky' feeling, than trust your instincts and stay away.
2007-09-21 06:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Ernie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a scam.
I wouldn't email with that person anymore.
2007-09-21 05:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋