i am a stage actress, and the roles i get would almost always involve me getting physical with a co-actor. now, i met my boyfriend because of theatre also, so i figured he will understand. (my boyfriend before him broke up with me because of the same thing) turns out that he doesn't understand after all. we had a huge fight and i asked him if it didn't matter to him that i choose to be with him despite the roles i get. he said it didn't matter. so i broke up with him.
i guess my question is, in the future, should i turn down roles that ask me to get physical just so that it wouldn't hurt possible future boyfriends? or are there guys out there who could understand that this is what i love doing and would still love me despite the roles i get?
2007-09-21 05:23:13 · 5 answers · asked by laurianna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in reply to the questions posted:
- for my recent ex, it has been a persistent issue we've been trying to solve but he somehow can't figure out why he can't get over my roles. and no, nothing pornographic about what i do. :)
- yes, it would be fine with me if he had to kiss other girls on-stage. just as long as after the show, i know i'm still the one he wants and not that girl he's acting with.
2007-09-21 05:51:19 · update #1
If you were a doctor would you turn down seeing certain male patients because your boyfriend might disapprove? Extreme example, I know, but you've chosen to be an actress so you have to practice your craft...you can't half-*** you way through it because someone else might not understand. (Mind you, there is a question of degree here to be considered...I mean, if you're a porno actress I can see your boyfriends having some trepidations there, but general theater fare doesn't seem particularly threatening to me). How often has this been an issue for you in the past?
2007-09-21 05:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love what you are doing don't stop it just to get a guy. It sounds like the ones you have found were too jealous and controlling to allow you to perform. Someone is out there that can appreciate you, and understand that even though you have racy parts, it doesn't mean that there is a romantical involvement with your stage partner.
2007-09-21 05:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by tripletsplus3more 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should turn down roles to prevent hurting future boyfriends, but if you're witha guy and you care about the guy and he's uncomfortable, you might want to consider turning them down.
I can honestly say I would be a bit uncomfortable with that myself, and the fact that you were unwilling to turn down these roles after you knew it meant a lot to the guy leaves no surprise as to why he left.
2007-09-21 05:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and how would you know?
have you built up trust enough with these bf's?
or did they come into the relationship to
oh crap you get paid to kiss other guys who are hotter than me?
also its the fact that some guy is kissing you gf its a bit hard to get over
i personally if i were to be with you wouldnt ever want to hear about your day because it would remind me that you probably kissed this guy 40 times today with a more passionate kiss than me or that im kissing a guy when im kissing you. i geuss its about confidence and trust'
and youre asking for alot of it im not sure what to say
no matter what you say or any future boyfriends would say there will always be that little thing in their head that is saying my gf is making out with this guy. then his friends can be like wait i saw your gf making out hardcore with this guy. how can a guy recover from that?
hmm this answer is taking a while for me to answer
its just that kissing is like an opening to the soul and for your roles you give it up cheaply the men you want ( good men i presume are smart and somewhat believe that im your love and you bare your soul for those that love you how can you kiss random people?)
also if u did find some1 who didnt mind
be careful because if he doesnt mind you kissing other men
you are going to want to know what u dont min in exchange
and well men dont only kiss we want sex so his exchange might be sex
u get to kiss people i get to have sex its even
it might not be fair to you but it is to him
the same as currently
its not fair to him that u get to kiss people but it is to you
2007-09-21 05:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by madmagemx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even porn stars have significant others. It just takes the right type of person - the person that knows that it's just your job.
2007-09-21 06:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ken B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋