i seen ugly girls who have boyfriends, and pretty girls with boyfriends, and i don't know what guys think of me, but why don't i have a boyfriend?
2007-09-21 05:15:51 · 35 answers · asked by ngirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you too picky when it comes to guys?? I don't mean lower your standards. but do you take the time to know someone?Would you date a guy you thought was unattractive? I find that personality is what makes a person goodlooking or downright ugly. Get to know someone you might not ordinarily date. you might be pleasantly surprised.
2007-09-21 05:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by missNewBooty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you Im sure. Stop categorizing people as ugly and pretty. Realize you have more to offer someone than your looks first of all, and secondly who says you have to have a boyfriend all the time anyways! Take this time while you are single and enjoy it! Go out with your girlfriends and have a blast, try not to focus on what you dont have and see what you do have! Alot of women measure their self worth by having or not having a man in their lives, you have to learn to be okay alone, like you without a man, realize how great you are all by yourself, then that right man will come along! There will come a time when you're older and married and long for those single free days trust me! Relax and enjoy your life!
2007-09-21 05:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by momandchloe7105 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sorta know what you mean. I'm not ugly or anything, told I'm pretty etc. But I found if you want a boyfriend and you are looking for someone to be your b/f then you won't find one. Just don't worry about getting one and just look for friends, guy usually seem to like being friends first and if you don't go into a friendship hoping it will lead to g/f b/f then you won't get so disapointed. You have to have a good attitude and randomly talk to guys around you, sometimes they are shy or don't think you would actually talk to them or would go out with them. Its a Give and Take kinda thing.
2007-09-21 05:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by watchingairplanes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if yahoo will delete your question.
But anyway, you will find that it doesn't matter whether you're pretty or ugly, it's all about how you carry yourself. If you think you're ugly other people will too. If you're confident and work with what you have then you'll attract more people. Would you want to be around someone who has low self-esteem and only has bad things to say about themselves, probably not. Also you seem too anxious. Just be patient and enjoy life, mr. right will come along when you stop looking for him.
2007-09-21 05:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by closure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you worrying about other couples?
I think what happens in relationships is that in the beginning the first impression we have of another person is how they look
so initially we are all pre occupied with the physical but after time the more important aspects of the relationship will determine if its going to last
such as personality, sense of humour, interests,basic compatability
so if an ugly girl or guy is with a more attractive person then they have obviously discovered something in the personality of their partner which makes them continue on in the relationship.
Maybe because you are too focussed on the physical and dont concentrate on the personality of a guy is why you are alone?
Start talking to guys and finding guys who have a common interest with you such as a sport or a hobby and build your relationship from there
if you are always looking at others you will find that you stop looking at your own situation and will end up lonely & bitter
2007-09-21 05:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by jambutty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can smell a "girl who cares too much" a mile away. And what I mean by that is they know a "desperate to get a boyfriend" type. Not very attractive types can (sometimes)get more men than the more beautiful girls if they have more confidence and are friendly in a NATURAL and independant way. Its all in your attitude. Be happy being alone, and pretty soon men will want to be the one to scoop you off the market.
Good luck!
2007-09-21 05:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by S&NFervor4Ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...
The easiest answer would be the pretty girls have boyfriends because they're pretty.
The ugly ones probably have low standards/are easy or they make up for it in other areas(funny, really nice, etc).
I can't answer why you don't have a boyfriend since (and don't take this the wrong way) I don't know which of the two groups you fall into.
2007-09-21 05:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have such a high level of anxiety about this issue built up so that you subconsciously push people away. I realize what I'm about to suggest is easier said than done, but if you can relax and allow things to develop naturally, you'll be more likely to have a successful outcome. Maybe it could be more advantageous to you to focus on what you do have instead of what you don't have....that will cause you to exude an air of positivity, and folks tend to gravitate towards positive people. Good luck.
2007-09-21 05:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you come off as desperate and willing to date *anyone* and not just the specific? People want to know they're special to you, not just the first bus that arrived at your stop.
Re-evaluate why you're so desperate to have a boyfriend. You have to be happy with who you are before you can have a successful relationship. Just because everyone else has something, doesn't mean its right for you.
2007-09-21 05:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by Shadowydreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not the looks its the personality (unless the guy is only after sexx) you'll find sum1 that u get along w/ great that likes you to in the mean time dont act so desperate :)
and dont wait 4 ever for the guy 2 ask u out sumtimes ya gotta do it urself, cause guys are scared of rejection to.
2007-09-21 05:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by ♥BitterSweet♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋