2007-09-21 04:52:13 · 14 answers · asked by charliesbaby4493 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Even without details, this is easy. You need to be worried about your baby, not in-laws. This is your husbands job, you have enough to do. Make it clear to him that if he wants to be supportive that he needs to take care of this.
Ideally all of this should be communicated before the baby comes. It's not unusual for family to want to be smothering when there is a new baby. There needs to be a rule laid down as law:
"If anybody wants to have any contact with you or the baby for the next few weeks they need to:
1) contact your husband to request scheduling a visit.
2) if he thinks it might be ok, he asks you.
3) if you are ok with it, he gets back with them and confirms."
This may sound over-the-top but you and the baby have to come first. This can be a crazy time and so many women struggle with post pardem depression etc that you have to be structured. Even if it means your man has to be an a** hole and turn people away at the door, you've got to stick with it.
Let him do the mean stuff though. We all have roles to play and this is part of providing protection. He can't breastfeed, let him do this.
2007-09-21 05:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Update and tell us what the problems are... always be respectful to your inlaws, but tell them, this is your child, and you are going to raise her as you see fit. You are the parents here, not them. Have your husband back you up at all time... or maybe he should have a 1 on 1 with his parents. Good Luck girl & congrats on the baby!
2007-09-21 05:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by Leigha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean you really didnt give me much to go on need help with what? anyway not in a disrespectful way just being assertive you need to let overbaring adults know that you need your space and time to experience and enjoy being a new mother and when you need their help you will gladly ask for it. at 16 days old she really shouldnt be around to much of anything or anybody. you and the baby need your space to bond
2007-09-21 04:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume meddling...just politely say thank you when assistance is offered and honestly consider the advice. BUT, you are the mom, and you make all decisions and stick by them. Too bad if they don't like it! As a new mom you will make mistakes, but that is normal and be ok with it....
2007-09-21 06:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by alikat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would pretty much have to give us more details. If they are trying to tell you how to raise your child, I would tell them in a nice way that you are new at this and trying to learn. Also, is your husband involved in this trouble??
2007-09-21 04:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, what kind of troubles? you've only been a mom for 16 days, tell them to go away!
2007-09-21 04:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experince with the In-Laws. There is only one thing that you need to keep in mind.
LOCK ALL YOUR DOORS!!!!
They are the meanest poeple in the planet (mother-in-laws are the worst)
2007-09-21 05:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of trouble? Add details, gurl, believe me, I have been there and I will help with what I can.....Just give me details!
2007-09-21 04:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by SalsWyf07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to know more about what the problem is, but talk to your husband and ask him to handle the situation. These are his parents, and he needs to be supportive of you right now!
2007-09-21 05:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What kind of trouble?
2007-09-21 04:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋