I do...there definatly something weird there!! Unless obviously he is handicapped etc.. I even think guys who still live at home when they are over 21 is weird! I wouldn't dream of going back to my parents house and I'm only 19, it's not that I don't love them it just would be weird! Anyone else think the same??
2007-09-21 04:46:01 · 40 answers · asked by crazybex2006 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by live with I mean permantly live with...if they have had a relationship breakdown, became homeless etc then you'd expect them to live at home temporily, no longer than a year!
2007-09-21 04:55:53 · update #1
Balloo --- I do pay all the bills myself and I own my house outright, so If I can do that at 19 - I definatly can have a morgage on another house by the time I'm 30 if I wanted to.
2007-09-21 05:00:38 · update #2
Baraba B- I don't think there's nething wrong with living next door to yr parents, its just living with them.
2007-09-21 05:08:55 · update #3
mike G- I mean if you are not studying, you have a good reason but I mean those blokes who chose to live with their parents after uni when they are full-time employed is weird.
2007-09-21 05:45:03 · update #4
Lesley-- i think you need to untie your son from your apron strings... Mum and son can never be best friends --that is just plain weird!
2007-09-21 05:49:18 · update #5
ophirhodji - I don't think a mother and son can even be just roomates...I mean you don't hear me sayin oh by the way this is my roomate, oh hes also my dad...its just plain weird!
2007-09-21 05:54:22 · update #6
dont be so quick to judge why someone still lives at home.
There are plenty of reasons why somone still lives at home. Also, why do you think its weird for someone to live at home thats over 21???
It just might be that not everyone has the money to move out. I have been going to college for 5 straight years. I am full time and have been all those years, even in the summer semesters!! I am studying mechanical engineering and im pretty much always studying. I even have to study on friday and saturday nights sometimes, and studying all day on sundays are a given. I dont have any time to work while I am in school, so i dont have the money to move out. My college is a 15 - 20 minute drive from my house and thats why i didnt live in a dorm.
Dont be so immature and judgemental of people just because they dont do what you do!
2007-09-21 04:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mike G 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
While most people move out before 21, I know a couple people (guys included) who still live at home - I'm 22 and still live at home, too, (although, I'm a grad student and trying to save money while living with the 'rents), but housing is RIDICULOUS these days, and trying to move out before you're 25 is really difficult unless you have an amazingly well-paid job. In my area, 3 bedroom 2 bath houses are in the $550,000 range... so, I know I won't be moving out any time soon, and unless you find roommates to pay rent to help you pay the mortgage, it's not uncommon for people to live with their parents longer and longer these days. 30 may be a little excessive, but I guess if you're taking care of a sick parent, or really don't have the means to pay for a house, it's not unheard of. If you plan on moving out by the time you're 21, I just suggest you start saving as much money as you can.
2007-09-21 04:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by beachchik23259 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is just living there because he is too cheap to get his own place and has a job that pays well and doesn't require any medical attention, then yeah I think that is odd, but that is between him and his family and not my place to say anything about it. If he is living at home because he is going to college, is disabled somehow, etc. then no, I don't think its odd. I lived at home till I was 24 because I was going to school and looking for work in my field. Statistics show that today, more and more children are living with their parents at later and later ages, in particular for the difficulties faced today by an unstable employment sector and skyrocketing college tuition costs, which eat up a lot of your income after school.
2007-09-21 05:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kazama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people involved. If the mother is broad minded and easy to get on with, and allows him to lead his own life etc., then it's ok. There may be financial reasons, practical reasons for the choice...or maybe they get on so well that he doesn't feel the need to get out! If it's because he's a 'mum's boy' etc., then there's a potential problem...but we are all different aren't we...and we should show more tolerance of people who lead different life styles to us. If our society accepts homosexuals living together but not a mother and son, what are we doing!!??? Live and let live.
2007-09-24 08:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well a 30 yr old of course. and over 21 yeah I do. unless they are helping out there parents or taken care of them but then they would be livin with u. or if they had a disability & were not able to live on there own. Anyway If the person has a job and helps out with bills then i dont see such a problem but its still a lil weird I must admit.
2007-09-21 04:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by intensity92000 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird. I don't see why it should not happend. If it suits both parties, who are we to judge?
Anyway, this is very common in our culture. The son would usually stay home with his parents in order to take care of them in their old age. When he does marry, his wife would move in and support her husband in taking care of his parents. At the same time, the children would have a live-in babysitter. It's the way of life and I think it's great.
When I do have a son, I hope he would want to stay with me.....no matter what age.
2007-09-25 04:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Borneo Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question back... Why are you so bothered?
But think of it this way,
Maid service
Personal assistant
Can stay single and still not have to do his own washing
Cheap housekeeping (if any)
Keeping an eye on his Mum
and if you're cynical
His inheritance!
Some people dont feel the same motivation to be independant. Personally I thnik its weak, and shows selfishness unless Mum needs a carer or something. I wouldnt be interested in a guy like that.
2007-09-21 05:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My 30 year old still lives with me. We are more than Mum and son, we are best friends too, don't interfere in each other's lives and just find it very convenient to share a home. He is full blooded male who has no probs telling people he still lives with me (he's left several times but keeps returning). Think it would be good from the 'girlfriends'' points of view if he had a place of his own, but he doesn't seem to take this into account. Don't judge everyone on your own opinion of 'wierdness' - if you are confident and at ease with yourself there should be no problem - unless there's a problem with your Mother of course.
2007-09-21 04:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by lesleyyelsel 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Things change..stuff happens. I hope nothing changes for the worst for you, but believe me, some of the most successfull people in the world had a chapter in their lives much like the situation of the man you're speaking of. He's okay, as long as the person has a plan of "whats next" that dosn't involve leaching of his parents for much longer.
2007-09-21 04:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by BingoBanggoBongo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My BF is 47 and lives directly next door to his folks - within about 10 feet of them in fact. They're a close family. That's all.
They're wonderful parents of an adult son - I adore them and would choose to have them as close friends with or without their wonderful son.
2007-09-21 04:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋