She is five months along and the skull didn't form. The brain will be uncovered and the baby will die as it is born. Is it more cruel or kind to let it come to term?
2007-09-21 04:40:17 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Shady, it can not live outside of her though.
Yes Red, it is true. I'm an asshole, not a liar.
I was thinking the same thing, Coffee, but I can't see them being wrong about the fetus having no skull.
I agree with the majority, it is up to her. Thanks for giving your points of view on what you would do also, well, most of you, people putting this in black and white terms just don't get it. Giving a magical date where it is too late to abort under any circumstance is very narrow minded.
2007-09-21 05:07:07 · update #1
Right now the doctors are saying it will be physically harder for her to bring it to term, Ramjet. I don't know why and I don't really have all the details yet.
BB it is OK for you to say you will pray for her. She is very religious and am sure she would appreciate it. We didn't all turn out like me :)
2007-09-21 05:10:54 · update #2
Oops. I meant 'DD', not 'BB'. Sorry DDKing
2007-09-21 05:11:48 · update #3
UPDATE:
Well, just in case someone really wanted to know the outcome, The baby had a weak heart beat, the reason they did tests in the first place. Abortion is illegal for any reason this late. Due to some other complications the doctors said there was a very good chance she would never have kids again if she let this one come to term. Labor had to be induced and the baby had to be named as it died. I thought that sounded cruel, but it might help them get over it. I'm really not sure.
2007-09-24 03:56:13 · update #4
Islamically, I believe it is okay to have an abortion in this circumstance. I know that islamically, it is okay to have an abortion if the pregnancy poses a threat to the mother's life and this case seems to be a case for abortion. I will ask for you a religious scholar and also star the question hoping that more knowledgeable people will take notice.
EDIT: I have asked for you and the agreement is that if
the mother's life is not in danger, then she should continue with the pregnancy.
2007-09-21 04:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by swd 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for and saddened by your sister's ordeal. This is a very difficult decision that she will have to make.
This is a very personal and hard decision that your sister will have to make.
I personally do not think I could abort the child. Even though the doctors say the baby will die once it is born, I could not abort him or her never knowing if they could have been wrong. I'd have to be able to know that I did all that I could.
I personally have a hard time letting things go even when I know I should which is why I would want to let it come to term. However it may be harder on your sister to go through another 4 months of pain and uncertainty. I simply can't imagine holding onto hope only to have a tragic outcome. In which case I think I might have to make the decision to go through with the abortion.
I'm torn on my opinion...what a difficult decision.
2007-09-21 04:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Christy ☪☮e✡is✝ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's strictly and individual choice. I counsel parents who have experienced the death of a child, and have known mothers of anencephalic babies, some who have opted for abortion and some who have allowed the baby to come to term. In at least one case where the baby went to term, the nurses put a cap on top of the baby's head and let mom and dad take pictures of her to remember her by. With the cap on, she looked just any normal baby, and that's the way they wanted to remember her. In the cases where the parents opted for abortion, the mom just couldn't bear the thought of having the baby be born and then die.
The bottom line is that it apparently doesn't really matter. What ever choice the parents make, whichever minimizes their pain, will be best for them and the outcome will be the same: grieving over a child that has died.
2007-09-21 04:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, that is hard, Ultimately it is up to your sister, I don't really think of it in terms as more cruel to let it come to term because it might not anyway and the baby like you said will die at birth anyway. I think your sister should be supported with whatever desicion she makes, it would be hard to continue carrying a baby you knew wasn't going to make it. And if anyone comes on here saying abortion is wrong, in a case like this, they are a jerk if they say so. I am very sorry for you and your sister.
2007-09-21 04:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should let it come to term. Only Allah knows if the brain will be uncovered or covered. To say that it will be uncovered is not right. There are still four months to go and only Allah knows what will happen in those months. Even if it was a fact that the brain would be uncovered-which it isn't- it would be wrong for her to get an abortion.
Please, look at what you asked...you ask if there was any reason, religious or otherwise-why your sister should not get an abortion.
My answer is that if your sister got an abortion it would be murder.. pure and simple The Creator put the soul into us humans forty days after we are conceived. Therefore abortion after forty days is murder.
2007-09-21 08:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear about this... really I am. I want a kid someday and I don't know what I'll do if that happened to me..
But as for the abortion, as long as she will be safe, and I would also ask about the whole being able to have kids again. Some abortions will make a women sterile. But the choice is hers. I would support her either way. I am for the abortion, but know the risk that she may never have kids again.
2007-09-21 05:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Freq, Grandparent of Y!A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. my aunt had a baby many years ago before the medical could see what was wrong...baby was still born...she had 4 more healthy children after...
2. a woman at church had something that sounds similar and they chose to go to term....the tests had been wrong and there was nothing wrong with the baby..
3. for her mental and physical health it is best to let things go to term....
otherwise there will always be the question in the back of her mind that maybe she could have or should have...
with medical advancements , etc. perhaps there is an infant waiting for a transplant....in that way the child would not be forgotten...
2007-09-21 04:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by coffee_pot12 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, then my heart goes out to every member of your family, and especially to your sister. I can't say what would be right for her, and on this issue I am torn.
I support abortion in the earliest stages, and for instances such as what your sister is now going through. I do feel that it would be a kindness to stop the pregnancy now. However, as a mother --one who has lost a child-- I wish everyday that I had been able to hold my little one even one time before she was taken from me.
I think the answer to this question is something that your sister needs to seek within herself. No matter what she decides, this is going to break her heart in such a way that she will never fully heal. I'm so sorry that these things have to happen, and I wish only the best to all of you.
2007-09-21 04:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
From a religious perspective, I would say that unless the pregnancy will pose a threat to her life, then she should carry the baby to term. Perhaps God has made this baby the reason she would enter heaven, so this is a blessing in disguise.
2007-09-23 09:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In that case, it would probably save your sister and the baby pain if you had an abortion. If it could be done painlessly under anesthesia, that would be best.
As much as I support life, medical reasons like this are perfectly valid reasons for abortion.
I'm so sorry to hear about that.
2007-09-21 04:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kharm 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋