i don't have very many connections with people,but when i do it seems like i obsess about them,i can't stop thinking about them.from what people tell me i am a very pretty girl and i do know that i am,but i don't understand why i do that and evey guy seems to run away...why do i do this?
2007-09-21 03:50:22 · 21 answers · asked by phyllis o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say that you're just not patient and you like the idea of being with who ever you're into at the time.
It's not bad. I just means you don't like to waste time in a relationship getting it started.
Unfortunately, it's not how most others operate. You need to set your mark, then take things a little slower.
I know I know... patience sucks - but it could be worth it in the end.
2007-09-21 04:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by stupidhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your human and falling in love is the bodies way of tricking you into marriage :)
What do you mean by "connections"? if by connections you mean when you find a guy you like and start falling for them, thats just falling in love like everyone goes through :) - see my first comment lol
How often does this happen? are we talking hundreds of times or are you just brooding because the last guy you fell for didnt reciprocate? - tough question but i'm not being nasty - if this is the case in the end i'm sure you'll find someone eventually and when it happens and they fell the same (yes the guy will have exactly the same experience lol) it will be amazing and you'll never want to to stop.
I'm afraid though heartache might well be a fact of life in the meantime though!
If its been a lifelong problem hundreds of times over with you getting rejected though there might well be something you need to change about how you approach guys - but something tells me this is not the case!
Kepp smiling, i'm sure your a wonderful person in reality and your time is coming!
2007-09-21 04:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a connection with someone doesn't mean that you are in love with them! And, if and when you have a connection with someone and you obsess over them, you answered the reason for this in your first statement......."I don't have very many connections with people....." You have so much life to live. Don't focus on this aspect of your life so much. Just get out there and have fun. Meet people, socialize, and do whatever your heart desires. Don't sweat anything, just let time take care of everything! In the meantime, go out with your girlfriends, get all jazzied up and go out on the town........and just do you! Relax. When people know that you're being yourself, they'll feel much more comfortable and won't be so quick to bounce. You're going to be alright................
2007-09-21 04:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by mixed_beauties 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys enjoy the chase. You have to remain somewhat mysterious to guys at all times... even when they are your boyfriends. You can never really tell them that they completely have you. Men have an instinct to hunt and conquer women. Well men leave you so quickly because they felt that you have been conquered. You must always leave them wondering a little. Anxious a little. Make them think that they never quite have you even if you are head over heals for them.. don't tell them. Try this with your next relationship you will be amazed at the difference in the way he responds to you.
2007-09-21 03:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kristian K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question in the first sentence: You dont have many connections with people. So when you do get a new connection, you feel so strongly about it you dont exactly know what to do so you assume you're in love. The guys keep running away because you come on too strongly, so instead why not try to get to know alot of people and DONT fool yourself to thinking you're in love with them. When you're in love, you'll know.
2007-09-21 03:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by sakura h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not a game that u can fall in easily and get out of it. So many people styll in thie world don't know the difference between Love, Flirt, and crush. You grab one guy and he runs off then you grab another. Tha's not love. Love is something that you can't forget. Love is not changing guys every week. What you doing is not love. What you doing is looking for Love. Believe me when you really fall in love then you will know. Nobody will to tell you tht u in love but when you do fall in love then you will tell yourself tht you are in love
2007-09-21 03:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by ][)ee\/\/ana 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you get caught up in fantasies? unrealistic ones?
you love someone before you find out the whole story about them.. and they see that and it scares them..
Its ok to show guys that you love them but you have to at least be in a long relatiopship first!
I think you shuold get more connections with people like u said.. go out more and meet more guys.. maybe coz you dont have a lot of choice coz you dont know a lot of guys you go with what you have?
2007-09-21 08:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by lebanesebabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer now, yet I used to. Now I fall into like easily. i don't be attentive to if it motives you greater heartache or happiness to try this; it tells me you're in close touch with your thoughts and have an open coronary heart.
2016-10-05 03:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by gavilanes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need more friends and as pretty as you are try to give your man a bit more space, wait for him to fall in love with you too if it is going to happen, let him do the chasing for a change!
2007-09-21 04:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by moonbow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im my opinion, i dont think that its love that u feel towards these guys but just infatuation with them. They might be straying away from u because ur probbaly lookin for a reason to be in love while the guys are just tying to get to kno first .......just my two cents....
2007-09-21 04:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by tbac122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋