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my bro is 14 yrs. i'm 21, married, live in germany, just have my own life. i don't know what going on with him. my mom asked me to talk to him, because they had got into an argument because she deleted his "devil music" i'll admit i got him listening to rock, but not "hardcore". he shown me what he listens to and it's extreme. i tried telling her it was just a phase, he'll act rebellious, what not. i did, but i got over that. i lived with my dad though. then she told me he got a razor, started cutting himself, saying the devil made him do it. my mom sometimes tries to force religion on him and i don't think she should. yesterday she told me he was making suicidal comments at school. they took him to the hospital, from what he told the doctor, he was considered at "high risk" and was admitted into a "hospital" for a couple days. i don't know if its all an act or he really isn't ok, because he doesn't want my dad to find out. would you blame the music, it is something mental or what? :(

2007-09-21 03:41:36 · 6 answers · asked by lstgrl23 3 in Family & Relationships Family

she does look into his music, that was the reason for the last argument, she erased it.

2007-09-21 03:48:30 · update #1

my parent divorced when i was 9, he was 2. i did go through a slight depression, but i think it might barely be getting to him. :(

2007-09-21 03:52:32 · update #2

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Sounds like it's combination of things: music, rebellion and deep-seated personal turmoil.

It sounds like your brother maybe identifies with that "devil music" as your mom calls it because he has some personal issues he's not able to voice (for whatever reason). The cutting is cause for concern. It often signifies that the individual is in pain (inside pain, not physical pain) and is trying to release it. Mental or emotional anguish is hard for most young people to cope with. Sounds like your brother found some music that, in some way, conveys his feelings or justifies them or something. Now he has taken the next step and is trying to release his own feelings or problem. The problem is, he has chosen cutting as his methodology rather than talking to someone or writing lyrics...healthy outs for this type of thing.

Of course, it is possible that his intense and extreme listening to that "devil music" has put things in his head that otherwise wouldn't be there. Some people are more suggestible than others.

Any way you look at it, your brother needs some help in dealing with his inner turmoil. Your mom might the like the terms "his own demons". Please see that he gets some help with whatever is at the root of his behavior.

2007-09-21 03:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0 0

Blaming the music is just the easy way out; it won't bring out anything that wasn't already there. Sounds to me like your brother's behaviour is more to do with your parents' divorce and possibly the fact that your mother's trying to force religion on him. He needs some therapy and a lot of love right now.

2007-09-21 15:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by chemical_sister_2000 2 · 0 0

kids who cut, usually have underlying emotional issues.

believe me, no one else can convince us to cut ourselves, unless we already have a tendency do be destructive.

your brother probably suffers from depression or some other emotional problem... i dont think it's the music...

apparently your parents are divorced... did you know that divorce can take quite a painful, emotional toll on a person (i'm sure you do, since you are a child of divorce, also). sometimes, kids don't cope well, parents ignore all the signs, and it comes to this.

getting good help is what your brother needs right now... and i hope your mother will be consistent about his medical treatment.

take care.

2007-09-21 10:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1 0

I wouldn't blame the music. Sounds like your brother has some problems that he needs professional help to work out.

2007-09-21 10:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i think it has a lot to do with the music. but the type of music he listens to also reflects on the types of people he hangs out with and maybe the kids that listen to that kind of music arent the best people for him to be hanging out with.

your mom should look into that as well as the music.

2007-09-21 10:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

it's probably his only way of showing his emotions through the type of music he is listening to . was there anything that happened in the family that could have trigged it off?

2007-09-21 10:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by The_Last_Starfighter 3 · 0 0

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