of someone who has had a death in the family?
2007-09-21 03:34:16 · 10 answers · asked by Herbert Windt 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
painintheneck, I think you hit the nail on the head. These are cultural differences.
I am a Mexican-American living in South Texas. I just asked my mom about it, and she said it was a commomplace here as well. I do appreciate everybody's input though.
2007-09-21 04:13:49 · update #1
A few more details would be helpful.
I dont think it would be appropriate to drop them off at the funeral home.and it would be a bit awkward to hand them to the bereaved during a service.
but if you mean if after a service you approach a family member or friend who is going to the home or reception afterwards and ask them if they could take the baked goods to the home or reception, it should be okay.
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2007-09-21 03:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by matowakan58 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The funeral home will always have coffee, but the baked goods are up to the friends and family. It is a nice gesture for a friend of the family to bring dessert, especially for the children and those spending many hours there.
It is not a party, but it is a nice thought since the immediate family is not thinking along these lines.
2007-09-21 11:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am from the philippines. people often times offer refreshments at wakes. it is pretty well known around here that there is free food at wakes. its gone to the point that there are wake crashers pretending to sympathize but are really there for the food.
if they don't serve refreshments at the funeral home you are going to then don't bring it. there will be no place for food there anyway. i guess offering the grieving family baked goods is a well intended gesture and it will make it even more precious and sincere if you send it to their home.
2007-09-21 11:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by painintheneck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmhhh I don't think so. I have never seen refreshments at a funeral home. And if your intention is for them to take it home, just do them a favor and drop it at the house. Don't give them a loaf of bread or a pie to have to have to keep track of while they are grieving.
If you stop by and nobody is home you could leave it with a neighbor.
2007-09-21 10:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by anon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No...I don't even think funeral homes are allowed or supposed to have any kind of food there or being served....
Just bring it to the family's house, it'll be less for them to think about.
2007-09-21 10:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not under usual circumstances, since if people have coffee after the service, they will have already arranged things. You would take food to the family's home.
2007-09-21 18:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be rude but maybe inconvenient for the family to have to keep up with and then transport back to their home. Plus, they are probably are going to the cemetary afterwards and your goodies could spoil before they even get to enjoy them. :)
2007-09-21 12:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by BNic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You don't take or sent food to a funeral home. If your going to send something send it to the home.
2007-09-22 00:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
Food is served at a wake if there is going to be one, where ever the wake is being held.
2007-09-21 11:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've never laughed so much!
crumbs in the coffin!
Keep the catering separate from the corpse.
2007-09-21 16:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by rosie recipe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋