Well, i'm 15 and my bf n i have been going out for a month now...but i just...feel differently about him now.
My feelings for him have faded and when he tries to be affectionate or anything like that, it annoys me a bit.
He's really clingy as well and when I go on a date with him, he won't let me go, he always has to have his arm around me, it makes me feel claustrophobic almost.
I just don't think things are working out, I"m starting to talk to him really bluntly and if its a good idea to end things with him, then i wanna do it soon before i say anything wrong.
What should i do?
Ps:
all his friends tell me, that hes head over heels for me too. so if i break up with him, he'll b realli hurt, right?
2007-09-21 03:33:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To who asked bout how old he is, he's the same age as me, 15
2007-09-21 04:01:10 · update #1
Ok, well, to answer your question about him being hurt, yeah, he may be a little bit, but what if you don't tell him? Look, from years of experience, the best thing to truly do is to be upfront with your boyfriend. Don't lead him on or have him thinking that there's feelings there when there really isn't! If he cares for you as much as you say he does, get him by himself and pour your heart out to him. Tell him that you're not sure where you are with your feelings towards him and that you just want to chill out and be friends. And, let him know that you're coming to him and telling him that because you didn't want to hurt him. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. But, the worst thing that you can do is play someone's emotions!
Also, you are only 15. You have so much life to live and enjoy. Be yourself and put yourself first! I didn't really start dating guys until college and I don't regret that. Then, you can just do what you want and experience the ups and downs of life. You always have time later on for boyfriends. Ultimately, it's up to you though. I wish you the best of luck. Everything will work out! Just make sure to be honest and upfront...........
2007-09-21 03:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by mixed_beauties 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you don't want him to be around you anymore but think about him. What if he styll likes you around him? If you dump him or leave him it will hurt him but if he is feeling the same way as you are then there is not a problem. You don't feel the way you use to feel but don't hurt someone just because your not happy with him anymore. You won't get anything by hurting someone first go and try to find out how he feels about you does he feel the way you feel. First find that out then take a step.
2007-09-21 10:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by ][)ee\/\/ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clingy often means he is scared of loosing you, so your right he will be hurt.
BUT.. if he aint making you happy and your feelings are fading, what is the use in the both of you being upset when you finally split?
Make yourself happy and just be friends together, he will be upset and hurt for a little while, but if he still realises you can be great friends it will work out great in the end!
DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU!
2007-09-21 10:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by srbousie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing just happened with me girl. The only way to do it is to be direct and tell him. He may get upset, but he's just going to get more and more annoying and become more attatched. Cutting the strings sooner will be less painful in the end.
2007-09-21 10:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jessigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya. He'll be really hurt, but it's you you should be concerned about.
Your situation is so textbook for 15 year olds. You have everything to look forward to. Dating different guys that fit your lifestyle and taste. Don't worry about him, he'll get over it. I did.
DUMP HIM. - It's the right thing to do. :D
2007-09-21 10:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by stupidhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't drag it out and give him false hope. Maybe take some time apart and see if you really miss him. The worst thing you can do is stay together if you don't like him like he likes you. You'll both be better off in the long run.
2007-09-21 10:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by senorcookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can tell you is that you should just leave him cuz if you dont even feel the same way about him then you should just leave him!!!!
he will probably be hurt and you will probably feel hurt as well but its ok you guys will move on maybe you guys will become friends and be happy with each others friendship!!!! :)
2007-09-21 10:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno exactly how u feel i had my first girlfriend at 14...the problem was i didnt kno wat the hell was going on half the time...at that age most guys and some girls...dont know wat a real relationship is really about...it goes back and forth...if he gets on your nerves...and u cant talk to him about it then maybe u two shouldnt be together...and u r 15...high scool is a big adventure...its where u find your real self...a lot of people think its college but its not...there will be plenty of relationships and drama to come....trust me... but picture yourself at your senior prom wit him...if u dont like that picture then hes not the one...it took me all 4 years to find the girl for me and that was on graduation day!...so just hang in there and remember to consider his feelings if u do let him go...but ask yourself...did he consider yours?
2007-09-21 10:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by bigtray336 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i felt liike that with my bf and i broke up with him
then 1 week later i was flirting with another guy and saw him walk by and he didnt even look at me and it hurt i didnt know why but i really wanted to talk to him bc after we broke up we talked a lot now o want him back try to see past him being annoying for a while if he is still annoying then break up with him nicely and if you want him back you can
2007-09-21 10:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by jrmint92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he will be hurt if you two break up.Breakups are supposed to hurt. Anyways, ask yourself, first, is there anything about him i could possibly miss? Are you taking for granted anything about him? Really be honest with yourself here don't do anything until you are absolutely sure.
2007-09-21 10:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by don't be a hater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋