A friend of mine has invited me to a get together at a restaurant for her birthday by email. I sent her an email back saying yes I would go but if it was ok if I brught my boyfriend. The get together is tomorrow and I haven't heard from her. I already told my boyfriend about it and she does know him and does know that we are still together, so should I bring him?
2007-09-21 03:10:31 · 24 answers · asked by m3du2a 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
ahh been in this situation
i would say no hun
when making invitations for things people always consider their friends partners so the fact that he wasn't on the invitation was not an accident
also the fact that she isn't replying isn't a good sign, i wouldn't call her to ask again because then she will feel obliged to say yes and end up resenting u for it
also girlfriends get offended when u won't go anywhere without the boy
it makes them feel like their company on their own isn't good enough for you, again been in this situation
just leave the boy at home and have fun with the girls
xxxx
2007-09-21 03:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If she only invited you and didn't mention your boyfriend, yes it would be wrong to bring him without getting a response from her. Perhaps you should call her and ask. You never know, her internet could be down and she may not get the message. Maybe she simply wants a girls' night at the restaurant.
I've never really seen the point in e-mailing about these sort of things anyway. Especially when just about everyone has a cell phone nowadays.
2007-09-21 10:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not bring him unless your friend says it is ok. If you cannot get in touch with her or have notheard back then you should assume that your boyfriend is not invited. Perhaps she was just wanting to gather a group of girls?
I think your boyfriend should be ok with you going out with the girls for a few hours.
2007-09-21 10:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by anon 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As (most) others have said ... You should NOT bring your
boyfriend unless your friend has said that it is alright.
You did not make it clear who is paying the tab. And even
if each person is paying their own tab. You don't know if
there are enough reserved seats for extra people. (Most of
the time restaurants can accommodate an extra person or two...But I have been to functions (held in a private room) and
there really was NO ROOM for extras.
Finally ... Just because your friend "knows that you and your
boyfriend are still together" that DOES NOT mean that she
HAS TO include him in EVERY event that YOU are invited to!
2007-09-21 10:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by kjh 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think depends if anyone else is bringing their significant other. Maybe its a girls night out. It's not always appropriate to bring your man. Also if he is the only guy then he will feel uncomfortable. I would call her instead of waiting for a response to your email. Also she may not know how to tell you no. Ask her if anyone else is bringing dates. If they are then bring yours.
2007-09-21 14:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Fab Chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bring him if you didn't get an ok by the host. It is considered rude. Try asking again and if you still don't get an answer tell your boyfriend you are sorry and go solo. I don't think your boyfriend will mind.
2007-09-21 16:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by hazeleyes1279 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurry up and make a phone call. She didn't email you back that it was not OK to bring your boyfriend, but you need to be sure.
2007-09-22 00:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who will be picking up the tab for the restaurant? if she is paying for your meal then I would say just on a manners level then he would not really be able to go, BUT if each person is paying their own tab then I would not see a huge problem if he went, you have at least let her know BUT I would try and give her a telephone call to make sure, and of course he needs to bring a little something to the party by way of a gift balloons etc.
regards
2007-09-21 10:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by candy g 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Was it a formal invitation? If so and it does not say "and guest" then no, he shouldn't go. If it was an informal invite, then call her. Ask her what kind of party is it and are you expected to bring a date.
2007-09-21 10:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by msbettyboop40 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think bringing your boyfriend would be fine- being as you have asked her about it. But i would be prepared to help out with a part of the bill since his attendance wasn't necesarily intended by her. Offering to leave the tip should suffice.
2007-09-21 10:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Norma S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋