i am 19 an my bf is 18 turning to 19 soon. we are toghether for about 8 lovely months. he is my first love and i am his first love. we only have done oral sex to each other( we are still virgins) but we want to do more soon. i am scared that my parents would make me a scandal if they found out about it :( and even if they dont found out about it i am still wondering if this is right for me to lie to them,,,,i would really like to make love with my bf.
2007-09-21 02:58:29 · 24 answers · asked by Purple~Butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its just a thing i guess. im trying to think of the best answer for you. if they are religious people then that might be some of it right there...they want to be sure you are going to give the person that you are going to be with the rest of your life your virginity. you know sex isnt a bad thing so its not that big of a deal i just think that if your married and get pregnant than they will be a little more relieved...kinda see what im talking about here? my parents have some weird morals because they had it when they were younger, but were also in a different generation. so really its up to you, your grown up, if you think its right then just be sure to be careful and use protection k? and if they find you tell them that your grown up, and you can make your own decisions and be safe with those decisions. good luck to you! =) if you have any questions you can email me
2007-09-21 03:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats great, go for it. Make love to your bf and be like most women and men are these days. Who cares about morals, who cares about waiting till marriage. Sounds like soon you wont have any good morals to pass down to ur kids. Id imagine when they are teens they will be wanting to screw around and have pre marital sex too. People just dont unjderstand how precious their virginity is these days and this is a shame.
You should thank god you have parents that love u and even care if your a virgin or not. Your the typical teenage and i hope u change.
2007-09-23 19:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual intimacy in any form does not leave you a virgin, so you have little to worry about. All you've done is avoid pregnancy.
Perhaps you should realize that lying is not a sign of maturity.
Of course you want to "make love" with your boyfriend. Just don't confuse sex with love; they are two very different things. Animals can have sex, but they cannot love.
How may sex partners do you want to have in your life. Set that boundary and then decide what you want to do with your boyfriend.
2007-09-21 10:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to marry, then wait.. There is a saying. if you can get free milk why buy the cow ?. Not calling you a cow..
But what is wrong with waiting. Absolutely nothing. If he loves you and you love him, believe me it is best to wait. The magical moment of being married and being together will be a lasting memory. Instead of a motel or back seat of a car. And knowing you lied to your parents. So i say wait.
2007-09-21 10:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by Bunnie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i know this will sound mean but your parents need to wake up its the 21st century! there's girls who are 13 and getting pregnant! Im not saying go have a baby but if you guys wanna try it b/c yall are in love and stuff then go for it. Just make sure your not at your parents house,lol. Just remember to be safe. Lifes to short to miss out on all the excitements it offers you. Have fun and good luck on your decision.
2007-09-21 10:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it is your first love, then you don't know what love is. Your in heat, not love. What are you going to offer the man you marry, seconds, or thirds, or ? I bet he'll sure like that. Don't you have any respect for yourself, any dignity, any dreams of the future with the real right man. Your still young, you still have have a lot of growing and living to do. Wouldn't it be a wonderful thing, when you do meet the man of your dreams, and you can offer him you, completely and wholly. How much more will he love you, knowing he is the only one to get to. That takes time.
2007-09-21 10:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My parents are very conservative too and they didn't take well to the news that I was intimate with my boyfriend. I was 19, he was 20 so we were consenting adults. I had no intention of telling them about my personal life but my mom figured it out and it led to months of "interventions" from her and my dad, trying to get me to break up with my boyfriend and make me feel ashamed. To this day I don't get along well with my parents and I ended up marrying my boyfriend, so now they have him as a son-in-law after all their horrible behavior.
All I can say is, if you love your boyfriend and you are responsible about sex (using protection!) they really can't say anything about it; you are an adult. But be prepared for their backlash if they really are traditional. I don't get along well with my parents (this is 10 years later!) but I have to live with for making my own decision. I wouldn't change anything. Good luck!
2007-09-21 10:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should set your parents down and explain the facts of life, that being there are no virgins anymore. This practice was abandoned years ago it was causing to many problems who is who aint. Explain the facts they are not up to date poor folks living in the old world
2007-09-21 10:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me give you a bit of hindsight on this. I was a virgin at the age of 23 by choice, and then I got engaged. So I decided have real sex with my fiance wouldn't be that bad, BUT LISTEN TO THIS, BECAUSE WE HAD GOOD SEX AND MEN'S #1 NEED is sex ACCORDING TO THE CHRISTIAN BOOK "His Needs, Her Needs",,, so this guy couldn't help but want sex, it made him think I was the one for him because our sex was good, but we actually had nothing in common. So we married, and we had 2 children, I held on for 10 years, trying to save the marriage for my babes. then we divorced, sadly , and then when my 2 grew up they had their dad's laid back genes which were the opposite of mine and if we hadn't had sex we would never have ever gotten married and now at age 56 I suffer and cry because my own 2 beloved babes would rather ignore me and be with their dad ONLY BECAUSE THEY GOT HIS GENES. So see what sex outside of marriage can lead to, a life of complete unhappiness for a few moments pleasure, want to live my life ???????????????? Ask God if oral sex is sex, Bill Clinton may not think so, but God does !! as it leads to and tempts into bad scenarios
2007-09-21 10:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by I Love Jesus 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you both are legally adults and can have as much sex as you want. your sex life is not your parents' business. if you both feel you are ready to take the next step and are in a loving relationship then do what feels right. what they don't know won't hurt them, so if you have to keep it a secret, then do so because it's no one else's business. don't feel guilty, you're not doing anything that's unnatural.
2007-09-21 10:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋