I like to be true to myself, but sometimes I tend to accommodate the person I'm with, friend or stranger, by slightly changing my personality to make one feel more comfortable, or at ease.
I like to be myself, but for example, if I'm with business associates I have a 'business' personality, and if I'm with friends I'm myself (funny / a little weird / quirky), and when I'm with family, I'm just the same except a little bit more crazy. I tend to read the person I'm with, then change up a little to adapt to the person.
The closest thing I could find to explain myself is how Dave Chapelle explains it, except he relates it to pressure.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=ksgLM_kDAc4
I relate to this clip on so many levels..
Is it just me, or do other people do this? I want to be myself ALL the time, but I'll probably loose my job, repel the opposite sex and be a social nut case.
Its a shame...because i have this funny feeling I'll be more successful professionally and socially if I was just me.
2007-09-21 02:47:37 · 7 answers · asked by jay s 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You know Jay - you are yourself in all of those circumstances. You are being part of yourself all of the time - you are not being a fake. You know what your roll is and you perform it at the given time. There is a time to be funny and goofy and there is a time to be serious and business like. No one has a monotone personality - where would the world be with out differences and by differences I mean a variety of Jays. This means that you are also a rather mature person when you can acknowledge that locker room humor is to be saved for when you are with the fellows and not when you’ve just been introduced to someone by an associate.
If you take a good look at yourself you’ll see that you are quite complex and this shouldn’t worry you - you know how to roll with the punches. And remember to save what you feel is the real you for those near and dear to you. to good friends and close business associates.
2007-09-21 02:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i have found myself being different just to adjust to the next person. i guess that is part of living in a society, and having so many roles to play. but at the same time, i wouldnt like it if my core changes, if my essence changes. i wouldn't like to be a chameleon. i want to be myself. and i guess i don't see that changing. the things that change are for eg...being professional and chatty with people at work (even though i might not be in the mood. Or being nice to my family (even though there are times I just want to be really crabby with them) and not make them worry too much about me. But yes, there are people who also tend to bring different sides of us. I can't be 2 faced but I can make tweaks to adjust to people n situations around me, and I guess that is part of my personality too.
On the whole, I agree with u, sometimes we think too much. Best is to be urself, no matter what.
2007-09-21 06:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jay, my friend, it is all a matter of perspective. What you call fake may just be the different facets of your personality. If we all behaved one way all the time, how boring would that be? Pat yourself on the back for being as intuitive as you are when you are socializing. My guess is people like to be around you.
2007-09-21 02:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am similar to you... and I think most intelligent people try to make an effort to be civilized and get along with whoever they are around. It's what makes the world go around without people constantly fighting and bickering. I find it easier to go along with people unless I REALLY feel strongly about something. I think it is natural to want to fit into different groups so you may need to act differently in different situations.
2007-09-21 03:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by anon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, i think of if human beings do unlike me that is their undertaking! on account that while is being that form of uncomplicated a stable ingredient?lol. I say in the event that they do unlike you as you're, hard sh*t for them! that is not nicely worth compromising who you're, what you stand for, or your existence aims exceptionally! and that i became into y no skill *unpopular*, I merely observed it as i had some acquaintances from all walks of existence and that i enjoyed it that way:) keep your head up!
2016-12-17 06:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep it up, prepare for the insanity to kick in.
2007-09-21 02:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
like, never, ever! how's that for being fake?
2007-09-21 03:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by amazed we've survived this l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋