I have a family problem...actually it's my dad...he have this drinking and smoking problem...it's start to bother me...how? by seeing my dad asked my mom for money that my mom been working harder to earn that alot of money and my dad's totally JOBLESS!!! I'm deaf and 17 years old, in 2 weeks I hope to start my new job because of my mom, she's need some help so I decide to help her by start my new job...and I really want my dad to quit his bad problems! I beg you, and my sisters always in bad mood because of my dad's problems...I want have fun with my sisters but they couldn't used to it...**BTW, my both sisters and I are coming from hearing family meaing my sisters and I were born with deafness.** I couldnt take it ANYMORE!!! please tell me what to do...thanks.
2007-09-21 02:46:22 · 2 answers · asked by bunnielover 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Alcoholism is a disease, and as you see, it causes problems, destroys trust and generally ruins relationships.
You can probably get some help by searching the internet. Alateen and Alanon are both groups for people whose lives are affected by an alcholic, hon.
You can also look up COPING WITH AN ALCOHOLIC.
Your dad is using your mother for money so he can drink. Your mother is ENABLING him to continue drinking by giving him the money to buy his alcohol.... and no one can help your father except him.... HE has to want to quit.
Sometimes people have to be hospitalized in order to quit. If he is a hardened alcoholic, simply quitting might kill him.
It's nice to help your mother, and if you want to help, keep your money -- pay a bill or two. DO NOT give your mother or father money... because it will just end up in your father's hands and be spent on drinking....
that's my best dvice. i'm really sorry to hear you are living in this bad situation.
2007-09-21 02:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you are deaf, I would suggest you write a letter to your dad. Express to him your sentiments about his being jobless and being an alcoholic. Be sure not to offend him in your letter. Tell him you just wish that he can get a job so he can help your mother earn a living. Give him a hug to show that you care for him in spite of the ordeal you are having right now. Maybe, just maybe, he will be touched by your gesture. People can change and your dad is no exception.
2007-09-21 02:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Reycen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋