A friend of our family has died, my mum is really sad- What can I do to ease her?
Like, any words of wisdom or something? I am just saying nothing at the moment.
2007-09-21 01:52:10 · 19 answers · asked by .... 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
People in mourning are usually angry on top of being sad and can sometimes take things the wrong way. For example, saying "I understand you are sad" may come off to them like you understand their pain and they could be thinking "he/she doesn't know anything about how I'm feeling."
Personally, I think it's better to just be a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. There's nothing that you can really say that is going to ease their pain, no matter how hard you try.
2007-09-21 02:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by Alison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone close has died the major things people who cared about that person want to talk about is their special memories. Things that they did together, funny things they said, sad things that happened etc etc. What you can do for your mum is encourage her to talk and be interested, ask her questions about her friend - it will mean so very much to her. Well done for being such a special daughter.
2007-09-21 12:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by alex s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father died 4 weeks ago, and my mum is really sad. All you can do is be there for her. She will want to cry, so let her and just hug her. It is going to take time. The loss of someone is very hard, but time does make it easier. I promise.
2007-09-21 09:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by tia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that your mum's really sad right now.
You can't do anything to ease her pain im afarid - all you can do is be there and help hher through it. Grief is a very sad thing but it does get better with time.
2007-09-24 14:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum needs you to be there for her - silence or chat only she will be able to tell you what she wants. Either write a lovely letter to her telling her that you love her and her pain is your pain - what can you do thelp. Or take her out for a meal just the two of you and explain to her how you feel helpless and want to help her. It may be that she does not want to burden you with her grief. Also you may be afraid to say anything in case she gets upset - people in grief often just want people to acknowledge the loss and be there.
2007-09-22 08:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by nickywireobsessive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a waiting game I'm afraid! I lost my mum when I was fifteen...ten years ago...still hurts just as much...you just have to make sure she knows that your there for her...I'm sure she knows that tho...you sound really close to her! I always found that knowning someone was there than actually doing something...take her a cake and make her a bru...and sit and have a good natter about her friend...I'm sure she'll be fine..its just so painful at the moment -
My condolences! x
2007-09-21 09:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mtag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a lot you can say in that situation. Just give your mum a hug for now. She will be okay in a few months. Humans are resilient creatures ; she just needs some time to grieve. ( make it a big hug )
2007-09-21 09:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by brian777999 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your friend's mother. Yes at these time we dont usually get the words to console them. Sometimes your presence itself does the talking, And this is one such situation. Be for her, take care, be on her side. Try not to leave her alone, its the lonliness thats more painful
2007-09-21 09:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by derric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Gen - sorry to hear about your friends Mum. All you can do really is be there fore her. When she calls, answer the phone, go round with flowers and a hug, that sort of thing. Hugs to you xx
2007-09-21 08:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No words can help her...but you can listen. Let her talk about her friend and the good/bad times they had together. Talking will help but grief is a slow process. Its good she has someone like you to care for her.
2007-09-21 09:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋