My 2 and half year old daughter wont do a poo on the toliet?

Question

She only goes in a nappy at night.

Does anyone have any suggestions on getting her to go on the toilet

Answer 1

This is quite a common problem and, perhaps part of a general animal instinct only to open your bowels when feeling totally safe and secure, rather than perched on a potty under the expectant gaze of adults. "Watched pots never boil," as the saying goes!

The best thing to do is not put TOO much emphasis on going potty. I think this scares kids and makes them apprehensive of the potty. You could try putting the potty in front of the TV or somewhere else that is comfortable. Encourage her to sit on the potty regularly, every two to three hours.
Is your attention distracting her? Try waiting for her just out of sight, or read the paper next to her and let her go on her own.

Also, 2 and a half is still young, some aren't ready till they are 3 years old.

If you still can't get her to go, discuss your concerns with her GP. Often the problem or problems are minor and can be resolved quickly, but sometimes physical or emotional causes will require treatment. The GP's help, advice, and encouragement can help make toilet training easier. Also, your pediatrician is trained to identify and manage problems.

Remember, it is not recommended that you use negative reinforcements (verbally, punishments or spankings) when the child has an accident , wets the bed, or uses a nappy instead. Positive reinforcement as simple as a hug, sticker or praise for successful potty event is much more effective. Taking cues from your child will make the process of potty training go more smoothly for everyone.


Good Luck!

Answer 2

You have two options. You can wait until she is 3, like the earlier answer suggests (this is the ëasy option) or you can take away the nappies and put her in underpants right now.

I assume that your daughter finds a private and quite place to go when nature calls? I also assume that she is aware of doing wees. She is just exhibiting human nature - we like to do the things we are used to and we can't believe there is a better way. While she wears nappies, she will always choose to do the poo in the nappy - because that is what she is used to.

If you take the nappy away, she will have some accidents but within a week or so, she will be on top of the whole process.

The down side is that you will have several messes to clean up, and underwear that will take some cleaning - but no more than the old cloth nappies used in days gone by.

Of course, most people these days vote for option 1 - wait until 3 - by about 3 and 3 months every child gets sick of doing it in the nappy - and you don't have to worry about those stains on your carpet...

It is a journey - enjoy!

Answer 3

Toddlers need to be able to reach the floor or a stool when having a bowel movement. It makes it easier for them to pass it. If their feet are dangling in the air, it's very difficult to poo.

Next, if they had a difficult time having a bowel movement in the recent past, they may tend to "hold on to it" in order to keep from having discomfort or pain again. An easy way of helping with that is to make sure they stay hydrated every day. I know that doesn't sound like it would make a difference, but one of the jobs of our large intestine is to remove water from the digested food for our body's use. If there's already only a small amount of water in the digested food, and the large intestine takes what it can from it, then the poo is going to wind up being hard and could be very uncomfortable to pass.

That said, make sure she gets at least 4 - 5 glasses-worth (8 oz each) of fluids per day (fluids being water, milk, half strength juice, etc... no soda), and make sure she has a sturdy stepping stool that she can use in order to get to the toilet and that her feet can reach and push down on while she's on the toilet.

This should help, but I'm sure there are many other suggestions that can help as well. These would be the two things I would consider important.

Answer 4

This is a surprisingly common problem. My younger brother suffered from the same problem (would only do a poo in a nappy). Try not to stress about it too much, and make sure she is not constipated or in pain, as that could be a reason why she refuses to use the toilet for her poos.

Answer 5

This sounds really weird but for some reason my little niece thought doing her poo's in the toilet would hurt. When she finally did go on the potty she was very surprised and rushed to tell her twin brother that pooping in the toilet didn't hurt at all. Who knows where they get these ideas from. You might try assuring her it won't hurt. You never know.

Answer 6

Hi ...i had the same trouble with my twin daughter Kylie... what we were told to do is get a seat for the loo so she feels safe put a little paper in first though .. another thing is, does she know the nappies are there ? remove them so she can no longer see them and she will then understand i cannot have one on if there is none here, it did work for us but be patient with her use a reward chart also this might help

Answer 7

OMG! he's doing precisely what my older brother does! it particularly is fairly embarrassing as quickly as we've company and he ices down a tumbler of we after he shoots hoops together with his acquaintances. And he nevertheless craps in all places! My parents had to construct him a element like a canines domicile. It stinks to severe heaven, notwithstanding it particularly is interior the lower back backyard so we don't might desire to smell it. Sound ridiculous? of direction it does, merely as ridiculous as watching for a 2 and a a million/2 12 months old to take a sell off like an person. He does not be attentive to any greater advantageous yet...draw close in there and shop doing the discern element. he will parent it out merely like my brother did!

Answer 8

C'mon how can u say 2 and half is still youg??? i used to put my daughter on the potty since she was 6 months old, and when she could walk she alredy recognized the importance of potty and when she was 18 months she was completely independent of nappy..and even in the night she doesn't want it anymore....try to sit her more often on the potty even if she doesn't poo and try to understand why she refuse the toilet..is she scared??

Answer 9

Children do this at different ages, my daughter was 3 & 1/2 so be patient and try her every now and again until she's confident.

She may well all of a sudden decide she wants to.

good luck.

Answer 10

My little boy wouldnt use the loo to do a number two but maybe start her off on the potty first and just let her do it her own way thats best 4 her she will use the loo in her own time trust me