When you give someone a gift and they go "You shouldn't have" - isn't it true that they really aren't willing to receive it from you - that they are rejecting your gift? Even if they end up accepting it?
2007-09-21 01:24:10 · 10 answers · asked by art_flood 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
no, they aren't rejecting it.
it means more like
"I wasn't expecting this"
2007-09-21 01:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It truly isn't acceptable to say "You shouldn't have"...it makes it sound as though they thought you went to a lot of bother. However, people do say it and it simply means they didn't expect it and are surprised. It has nothing to do with rejecting your gift. A simple thank you when receiving a gift is the proper way to handle this situation.
2007-09-21 02:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by red 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they aren't rejecting it. They are happy, possibly surprised, to receive it. And they feel it wasn't necessary, that your friendship is enough for them. Or maybe you gave the gift to thank them for a favor, but they were happy to do the favor with no payment in mind.
2007-09-21 14:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by ds37x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not rejecting your gift. It is something that people say. They feel they are being polite. It is more likely they are surprised about the gift and trying to be gracious.
2007-09-21 01:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by redhairchick2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 02:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by cronican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I think that is just their way of saying, "thank you for being so thoughtful". In a strange sort of way, maybe, but I know I have said that before when I really meant to convey the message that I thought is was very kind.
2007-09-21 01:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for Pete's sake, it's a conventional phrase and not meant to be taken literally. When you begin a letter "Dear Congressman Jones, ..." does it necessarily mean that this Jones rascal is dear to you?
It is a nasty habit to strip conventional phrases of their usefulness by taking them literally, and nastier still to then laugh at their nakedness. Calm down.
2007-09-21 01:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What it means is: "I don't deserve it", or "You shouldn't have gone to such trouble". We're always supposed to pretend that gifts are a surprise.
2007-09-21 01:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No they are genuinly grateful to receive your gift its just another polite way of saying thanks.
2007-09-21 01:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by michael o47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they are just being polite.
2007-09-21 05:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋