I've been with my military guy for years marriage has come up and since just about all of his buddies jumped the broom at the court house he expects us to do the same. Why?
2007-09-21 01:03:25 · 11 answers · asked by NA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, each person is different, but often (and especially with troops being deployed overseas so much right now) a JOP or Vegas wedding is much easier for troops. Also, soldiers are stationed on bases where they are needed, not where their family lives, this makes big weddings harder because very few live near parents and everyone has to fly in.
One of my friends spent months planning her wedding to a soldier and had to cancel everything and just have a simple, quick JOP wedding because deployment was moved up, so some think it's just easier to go straight to the court-style wedding planning. The Military can change family leave dates/deployment dates whenever they choose which makes wedding and honeymoon planning hard so that's probably why his friends all did JOP weddings. I've had quite a few friends marry into the military and only one did a traditional wedding. I think the biggest reason is because they already don't have a lot of family around so it makes a traditional wedding less of a priority. He may also want it simply because all of his friends did it that way, so it's the norm for him.
If you are serious about marrying him and really want the traditional wedding, TELL HIM (and preferably before you're engaged if you're not already). It will be extra stress in planning compared to other brides but if it's what you always dreamed of, make it a priority. Also, there's the option of a JOP wedding first, then a traditional one if he's deploying.
2007-09-21 05:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by iheartbayley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is military. We got married at the JOP because you never know what can happen (deployments, change of duty stations, etc)... we DID have a large ceremony and reception later on (as if we had never gotten married)... but it was a good thing that we "locked things in" because just a few months after being married I was diagnosed with a serious illness, he got shipped off, then he got orders to move 4 states away.... we had started planning the wedding and then had to postpone it (just three months before we were supposed to have it) - so if it werent for the JOP, it would have taken us twice as long to actually tie the knot, and it would have been much harder too...
But we both really wanted the "stuff" that goes along with it... so we still had a typical ceremony in a church (flower girls and all)... reception... bachelor/bachellorette parties... showers... etc. I even used my maiden name on all the invites and announcements... We loved it and our families were very supportive
2007-09-21 02:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got married at the Justice of the Peace but my husband was not in the military. It is way informal and we are having a large wedding Next May so everyone can celebrate together.
I believe most military personnel take it to the JOP because of the spur of the moment scenarios.
You should speak to your guy about this issue. You can suggest on getting married with the JOP at one date and celebrating formally with your family and his at a later. He may be just trying to save money but no woman deserves to be without a great wedding to her husband.
It is common to get married and to have a larger one at a later date.
2007-09-21 01:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by cherriwaves 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the excuses are probable as numerous because of the fact the couples themselves are. For the those that i be attentive to IRL who have been given married JP type it maximum in many situations got here all the way down to too little time and alterations in orders/deployments. They felt greater of a might desire to *be* married than a choose for the trimmings of a marriage. notwithstanding, in case you desire the trimmings too ensure your guy is familiar with that. i think it particularly is stupid to pass hundreds of greenbacks into debt (or bypass it on on your parents) yet once you're financially sound and have the time then get the marriage you desire. do exactly no longer forget that orders substitute. wedding ceremony assurance must be a severe priority.
2016-10-05 02:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by cronican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself am married to a military guy, but we have been married for a couple years and we had a regular wedding. I also know alot of military couples who have gotten married at Justice of the Peace. Alot of times they decide to get married like spur of the moment, or dont have time to plan a wedding before deployment, or before they PCS somewhere. In order to get benefits for their partner, marriage is necessary. I have known alot of couples who got married spur of the moment, but in a couple years had a real wedding with family and friends.
If you dont have time to plan a wedding Justice of the Peace is ideal for a quick marriage, if you do have time to plan a wedding then go for it!
2007-09-21 01:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by jamilah_87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you bothered to ask HIM this question?
HE is the ONLY one who knows the answer.
MY guess would be, that he could be called up at a moment's notice to head out to the Middle East, and he wants to make sure YOU are taken care of before he goes over just in case something happens to him.
Planning a wedding takes months, and he could be at sea for the wedding date, which would NOT be fun or a good investment.
2007-09-21 01:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him, that would be reasons known only to himself.
Maybe he knows something you don't...like his parents are not wanting him to get married till after the military?
2007-09-21 01:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Rev. Deb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most military people are not involved with a church. at least not on a regular basis. i think it just doesn't enter their mind to get married in a church.
2007-09-21 01:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know sorry you will have to just ask him, he would be able to tell you the answer, not us
2007-09-21 01:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
because there cheap.i no this because my ex did to.say no way.
2007-09-21 01:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by d s 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋