I've been with my military guy for years marriage has come up and since just about all of his buddies jumped the broom at the court house he expects us to do the same. Why?
2007-09-21 00:48:17 · 13 answers · asked by NA 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
having gotten married at by the jp myself..we were engaged and planning our wedding for the following year but my husband came down on orders to pcs to another base. i decided that i wanted to be with him no matter what even without the huge wedding...so we went down to the jp and got married..and 2 weeks later moved to kansas.
plus with all the issues going on with deployments, field times and everything else sometimes getting married at the jp is less stressful since you don't have to reschedule or put your wedding on hold..
good luck
2007-09-21 01:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Infantry Wife ♥ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why not be creative with this ? Get married with a JP before he gets deployed. That way you are covered as a military spouse. While he's over in the sandbox, you can take all the time you want to plan a "all the trappings" renewal of vows, should he return home alive. But focus on one thing...which is more important...being married, or being sent off with glitz.
Seems to me you are focusing on the material aspects, instead of the love part.
2007-09-27 12:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by commanderbuck383 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons are probably as varied as the couples themselves are. For the people that I know IRL who got married JP style it most often came down to too little time and changes in orders/deployments. They felt more of a need to *be* married than a need for the trappings of a wedding.
However, if you want the trappings too make sure your guy understands that. I feel it's stupid to go thousands of dollars into debt (or pass it on to your parents) but if you're financially sound and have the time then get the wedding you want. Just keep in mind that orders change. Wedding insurance should be a high priority.
2007-09-21 02:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is protection tension. We have been given married on the JOP because of the fact you by no skill comprehend what can take place (deployments, replace of duty stations, etc)... we DID have a extensive ceremony and reception in a while (as though we had by no skill gotten married)... besides the undeniable fact that it replaced right into a stable ingredient that we "locked issues in" because of the fact basically some months after being married i replaced into clinically determined with a severe ailment, he have been given shipped off, then he have been given orders to flow 4 states away.... we had began making plans the marriage and then had to postpone it (merely 3 months in the past we've been meant to have it) - so if it werent for the JOP, it would have taken us two times as long to rather tie the knot, and it could have been plenty greater good too... yet we the two rather needed the "stuff" that is going alongside with it... so we nonetheless had a typical ceremony in a church (flower ladies and all)... reception... bachelor/bachellorette events... showers... etc. I even used my maiden call on each and all of the invites and bulletins... We enjoyed it and our families have been very supportive
2016-10-09 14:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by gustavo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree as an Army wife married by the JP years ago I have to say nothing has changed, we still have no time and no money, the US tells us when and where to be at all times, so getting married by the JP is kinda just Standard Procedure for Military.
2007-09-28 22:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by apoxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier, less trouble, less worry, less preparation. Military people are about the immediate moment in time.
With a big ol' wedding there are months of preparation. Military people come to the thinking that there may not be a tomorrow, so if they can do something now, they will do it.
Planning is for those who have time to plan. In the service, there is no time to plan, only time for action.
2007-09-28 09:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kathryn P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen a lot of JP marrages and a lot of traditional marrages in the military. It just depends on the people doing it. It also has to do with cost sometimes. Other times it has to do with varying deployment schedules. I have seen a few weddings changed from a tradional one to a JP because of a change in military scheduled deployments.
2007-09-21 02:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by mnbvcxz52773 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In our case it sure was NOT becuse we wanted to, we were forced by necessity. Serving in the military we are subject to almost constantly changing deployment schedules. I lost thousands of $'s in deposits twice because my leave was cancelled because of deployment schedule changes.
After almost a year of delays we finallly decided to do a JP wedding in Japan. We got married on a Friday morning and on Monday morning I had to deploy.
Typically most people get married when they are just starting their careers and juinor enlisted people are not exactly rolling in money.
2007-09-21 13:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by oneiloilojeepney 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A. Because it is cheaper and as you are probably aware, people in the military aren't exactly rolling in the dough and do not have overtime available.
B. Less hassle and wedding planning becomes very easy.
C. Military personnel have enough crap to deal with.
2007-09-21 00:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Alan C 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I think military guys usually stationed in small towns and possibly remote areas where a big church and courts are not available. Why don't go for cheaper and easier ways?
2007-09-27 23:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Tom H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋