My husband has a problem with his reaction to anger.when he is angry,he reacts by destroying our properties.Am finding it hard to understand how he cant control his anger-what is wrong with him?what is his problem?
2007-09-21 00:33:34 · 7 answers · asked by lynn 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It sounds like he is not a happy person you don't say but is he a drinker my ex did this when he was drunk or high on drugs notice that he is an ex. other than that he may benefit from anger control classes you can find them through a county agency Good luck.
2007-09-21 00:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mary B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
anger management- depressed, frustrated and fed up. I know with me when all the little things add up, and then I come home, the slightest things sets me off and sometimes I throw things and become irritable to the point where I feel like punching something.
If you can get him to see some sort of anger management specialist- even a punching bag for the garage or basement where he can go and release his anger there instead of on things in/around the home. Also, pampering may help, relaxing methods like giving him a back rub or running a nice hot bath with candles lit, sounds strange but actually mentally and physically it releases those little cells that create the stress level to sky rocket- This anger is also bad for his blood pressure and heart, if for no other reason he needs help of some sort to avoid health problems. Getting him the help and him going for it is the most difficult part. But if he realizes he has an anger issue, he might consider it especially when all is said and done and he comes to his senses, realizing what he has destroyed.
2007-09-21 08:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by brandy2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, actually, I tend to explode like that, to an extent. I usually have a pretty even temper, but when it goes, holy cow!
That said, I've been aware of my temper problem since I was kid, and that awareness has helped me keep it in check, usually. I've also found that exercise and prayer have helped. No, I'm not suggesting anything religious :-) However, I think prayer or any sort of meditation -- quiet reflection at the end of the day for perhaps a half-hour -- really might help.
He can also check out anger management techniques from mental health professionals. It's not a shameful thing if you and he recognize something that he can adjust to help his (and your) quality of life.
Good luck.
2007-09-21 07:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably has some anger issues and is carrying around old anger which he has "bagged" and not dealt with.
what are his parents like? this could be a cycle of anger, and maybe this is how one of his parents handled their anger?
whatever the cause, he really needs to get a handle on the root of his anger, and get some help to stop destroying his property. this doesn't solve problems, as you know.
there is a lot of anger management self help information on line.. just do a yahoo search.
and take care.
2007-09-21 09:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he`s got too much emotional issues that are not delt with. he need to speak out all those issues he can still have inside. the only time peoples has an anger problem is when they have bad emotions that are stuck inside. and the more you keep in the more angry you are. or something is bothering him alot and don`t tell.
2007-09-21 07:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that is how he expresses his anger, which i think is more better than keeping his anger inside which can cause a heart disease. Just buy a property that is cheaper so that when he destroys it it is easier to be replaced.
2007-09-21 07:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Den 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you're probably very fat anf ugly and he cannot take you anymore. oh, and he's cheating too...
2007-09-21 07:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋